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The OLD Gods were smilin on Lou this W/E
| Mon, 09-19-2005 - 11:53am |
Hello All!
I started talking to a guy last weekend.
| Mon, 09-19-2005 - 11:53am |
Hello All!
I started talking to a guy last weekend.
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Wow, this is a surprising response from you Jodie.
Whatever happened to learning from life's lessons???
In fact, my love interest and I were cycling just past the Crab place on the river this past Saturday :) :)
This post has me smiling.
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I had to think about this for a bit, tstephnic, because I was a lot gentler/encouraging in my responses to the two ladies than I would have been with a newbie. I had to stop and ask myself, why is that? Because you are totally right, there are mixed messages on this issue.
I imagined myself in a situation of listening to a new acquaintance vs. an old friend and my reactions would be different there too. I have read a year's worth of posts from both ladies and I automatically assumed they knew the typical success rate of dates of the kind they had. Didn't stop me from giving caution, but I didn't need to go into any detail as I know that they know.
amjay
You're right, it's NOT easy when you have an intense connection with someone where you seem to connect on many levels. We've all been there.....
However my ex whom I broke up in May comes to mind. When I first met him a good friend of mine had to coach me (kind of what this thread is doing for libra and jodie) to PACE myself and limit my dates to one during the week and one on the weekend and no sex or exclusivety until at least one month minimum. It was hard but looking at the bigger picture not my immediate it made it easier. My ex BF even said in a way he was glad we waited as he had more of an emotional connection to me that had we done it early on. Early on it's easy to establish false intimacy based on some long dinners and philisophical chats but that's not a relationship. Relationships are interacting, doing things, having your first disagreement or conflict. Shared values and goals as well as activities you enjoy doing together, there are no short cuts for this no matter how you DRESS it up.
Now I'm not saying it won't work out for these two because it does happen for some folks absolutely, but were just sharing our wind of caution because that's what we do here on OLD, coach eachother.
It's all good - hope it works out.
SP
Ts-
I can understand where you are coming from.
CL-Truewild1969
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