The OLD Gods were smilin on Lou this W/E

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Registered: 06-01-2005
The OLD Gods were smilin on Lou this W/E
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 11:53am

Hello All!


I started talking to a guy last weekend.

CL-Truewild1969

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 4:50pm

Wow, this is a surprising response from you Jodie.

Whatever happened to learning from life's lessons???

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 7:14pm
Umm, I spent this past weekend in Louisville too :) In fact I have been there pretty often this past month. Why may you ask? Because I have a love interest who lives there :)
In fact, my love interest and I were cycling just past the Crab place on the river this past Saturday :) :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 9:27pm
Like we'd all go so slow if we had a super connection with someone.....lol. Riiiigghtt.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:37pm

This post has me smiling.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:43pm

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I had to think about this for a bit, tstephnic, because I was a lot gentler/encouraging in my responses to the two ladies than I would have been with a newbie. I had to stop and ask myself, why is that? Because you are totally right, there are mixed messages on this issue.

I imagined myself in a situation of listening to a new acquaintance vs. an old friend and my reactions would be different there too. I have read a year's worth of posts from both ladies and I automatically assumed they knew the typical success rate of dates of the kind they had. Didn't stop me from giving caution, but I didn't need to go into any detail as I know that they know.

amjay

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:50pm

You're right, it's NOT easy when you have an intense connection with someone where you seem to connect on many levels. We've all been there.....

However my ex whom I broke up in May comes to mind. When I first met him a good friend of mine had to coach me (kind of what this thread is doing for libra and jodie) to PACE myself and limit my dates to one during the week and one on the weekend and no sex or exclusivety until at least one month minimum. It was hard but looking at the bigger picture not my immediate it made it easier. My ex BF even said in a way he was glad we waited as he had more of an emotional connection to me that had we done it early on. Early on it's easy to establish false intimacy based on some long dinners and philisophical chats but that's not a relationship. Relationships are interacting, doing things, having your first disagreement or conflict. Shared values and goals as well as activities you enjoy doing together, there are no short cuts for this no matter how you DRESS it up.

Now I'm not saying it won't work out for these two because it does happen for some folks absolutely, but were just sharing our wind of caution because that's what we do here on OLD, coach eachother.

It's all good - hope it works out.

SP

 
 
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 10:17am

Ts-


I can understand where you are coming from.

CL-Truewild1969

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