Is OLD right for me?

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Is OLD right for me?
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Tue, 06-25-2013 - 8:04pm

I keep going back & forth in my mind about this.  I unhid my profile from POF after hiding it for several years.  Yes, you read that right.  I've only been on there for maybe a week and I've received a lot of hits.  Some guys seem nice to talk to.  But a huge part of me hates OLD.  No, I don't want to be single for the rest of my life.  But at the same time, having to log on POF every day to read my messages and reply and browse my matches is exhausting for me and sometimes, I find it dreadful.  And I'm not desperate to find a guy.  The other half of me enjoys being single.  I know there is no clear cut answer.  But how do you know if OLD is right for you?  Some of my friends have actually met their husbands through match or POF.  And that's great for them!  And they keep telling me to be patient with it.  I just don't know.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Fri, 06-28-2013 - 10:04am

I know OLD can be very frustrating at times. I think a paid site might be better in that it would keep away many of the trolls and cut down on the wasted time going through communication from non-serious people. Overall I can't think of a more efficient way to cut through the noise and narrow things down to the people who have qualities you are looking for and also screen the maximum number of potential partners.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 07-12-2013 - 12:49am

With online dating, you have to accept you'll likely kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Some sites get better crowds and produce better yields, but there is no way to completely eliminate exasperation and some weird encounters. On the positive side, it is a chance to meet people at any time of day or night, even while in desperate need of a shower and clad in stained sweatpants. Also, people do indeed find love online. I met my wife online almost 7 years ago. Whether online dating is for you, only you can answer. I'd recommend it to people as a supplement to other ways of finding love.