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What has kept you coming back to the OLD board? Is it the people? Is it the vibe? Is it the advice you get? How long have you been here? What made you come here the first time?
A lot of questions... and I promise I will answer but first need to think about the answers... :)
The people here are great, and I love the fact that there are new people all the time (possible delurkers like me?)
:)
I can't believe I started online dating a year ago February!! When I first did a search in my area, about 10 "pages" of profiles came up. Imagine my pleasant surprise when I saw that there were so many men, all in my neighbourhood, who were decent looking, hetero, financially sound, active, loved to travel, laughed all the time, looking for friendship-leading-to-LTR. With those numbers, I figured I'd have a boyfriend within a couple of months. Ha!
Then I took a look at what they were looking for. Never in my wildest dreams did I figure that my age would work against me (I was only 45), that men actually dislike flesh on a woman, that I should have "no baggage" (I mean, hello?, I've lived a life, ya know?), that I would be able to fly off to Timbuktu with a day's notice, that I would be financially, emotionally and spiritually independent (which makes me wonder what I would need them for?).
I did meet a couple of men, started/ended emailing with a couple more over this past year and a half. A couple of months ago I deleted all my profiles. I'm just not attractive enough for OLD. I'll keep looking in real life, thanks.
Throughout my OLD time, I was lucky enough to have found this board. I lurked on a couple of other iVillage boards and then found this one. I've been warned once by the Mother Ship (aka iVillage police) to behave myself, I've left in a huff at least twice, but have come back. It's just so much fun to chat with others, to read their experiences. I have even made some off-board virtual friendships with people from another country. Now, THAT is cool.
I don't think I could keep a positive attitude about OLD without the advice I've read on this board. I've learned a lot about it, and also about people in general, and as a result about myself. The most important thing I've learned is flexibility in my viewpoints. Don't laugh, I really have!
Of course, the board is less about OLD than about men/women relationships. So even though I'm not an OLD success story, I think I can contribute some useful advice.
amjay
I found this board when I was newly single and thought "online dating" was when you "meet" someone online in a chat room or the like and
CL-Truewild1969
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CL-Truewild1969
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I began On-line Dating 8 months ago and I'm currently using match.com. I've also used eHarmony and Yahoo Personals. On-line dating is thrilling, frustrating, amazing, confusing, amusing, aggravating, heartbreaking and an exciting roller coaster ride. The only people who can really understand the highs and lows of this "Meet Market" phenomenon are those with the shared experience. Our real world social network can only help so much.
I started reading these boards about 2 months ago. I discovered them through a Cosmopolitan article about On-line Dating. I just lurked and read the postings for several weeks. When my last OLD relationship ended and I spent more time reading the postings here, I realized I was not alone. My issues were universal and when I couldn't hold back any longer I jumped in and started responding to posts and posting myself. I was overwhelmed by the sense of community and support I found here. This is an amazing board and I keep coming back because I'm continually reminded that I'm not alone. We're all hopeful romantics and ultimately there is a pay-off in the end. I'm hooked.
Bump!
Would love to hear from more of you... :)