OLD - Venting Question???

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Registered: 05-09-2005
OLD - Venting Question???
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:16pm

Oh, I'm currently OLD'ing and during the past 2 weeks it's been discouraging. Jeez, I'm a single parent and my son is in NY for the summer and I'm free as a bird and want to meet someone who is interested in going to free concerts/movies in the park, etc. basically hang out and build a friendship. Yes I hang with gfs, but would enjoy some male company at times.

Well, I'm trying Yahoo for a 7-day free period and the usual is happening, a few Ice Breakers and chats. During the course of the week, they are talking about meeting me, taking me to lunch and/or dinner and no mention of a weekend trip approaching.

Question: Why is it that the men seem so available from Mon-Thurs and then the weekend they are ghost or better yet, the few I've been chatting with send me emails Thursday night "I'm heading out of town this weekend, chat w/you on Monday!" What's up with that??? Anyone else experiencing this? Of course, on Monday, the whole process starts over again, because my mailbox will be full of emails.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:26pm
Initial reaction - they're married and weekends are family time, but that's just my cynical opinion.


MS
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 10:20am

That is my initial thought.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:40pm

Well you can look at it in a few ways, one they have a life and want to live it instead of constantly searching for Ms. Right.

 
 
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:02pm

I'm not sure what your expectations are, but honestly that is par for the course with OLD. I have always gotten a lot more activity early in the week (Mon - Wed especially). I think there are a few reasons for that - one, many people ARE more busy w/other stuff on weekends and don't log onto the dating sites. Two, I suspect that even people who are not busy on weekends often avoid sending emails on weekends for fear of looking like they have nothing else going on in their lives.

I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with being married. I am not married but the past few months most of my weekends have been very busy and I have had a lot of out of town trips so I have been a lot less active on match on weekends too.

Question - do the guys who say they will contact you on Monday actually do so?

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:28pm

Question - do the guys who say they will contact you on Monday actually do so?

For the most part, yes they do contact me on Monday, if they say so! Some do not and I do not initiate any further communication, unless they do so. Most of them make contact Sunday evening (checked email on Monday), but I rarely check my computer on the weekends.

Also, another frustration, is usually the guys I'm chatting with online, we have exchanged phone numbers and may have talked via phone, and thus don't hear from them on the weekends, and then on Monday, I have an email from them (which was written on Sunday) in the OLD mailbox. Of course, I'm like why don't they just call me -- they have my phone number!!! Ugh.........but I know this is expected with OLD! (smile)

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:35pm

If they do contact you on Monday, I would just ask about their weekend and go from there.

Re: guys emailing rather than calling - are these guys who you have met in person or not? If you haven't met them, for me what has worked best is to talk on the phone once and then set up a meeting - I have had very little luck with guys who do not want to set up a meeting during the first phone call - they usually fade away for one reason or another. I recently encountered another guy like that and true to form, he cancelled the first AND second meetings we set up - at which point I politely said, see ya. :)

I haven't seen you here before so I am not sure how you do things so my apologies if you have already explained it. Good luck! :)