OMFG! Where the heck does he get off?

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Registered: 11-05-2003
OMFG! Where the heck does he get off?
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 1:00am

Okay, some guy IMs me on Yahoo tonight. I guess I was showing online through my Yahoo public profile. No biggie, I'm bored so I figure I'll see what's up. So, what's your name? Single? Kids? Blah, blah, stuff like that.

So when I reveal I'm 31, never married with no kids, he says point blank..."Are you a loser or something?" Bear in mind that he has revealed that he has 4 kids & has been divorced twice...and is only 28.

Then, I tell him that kids & marriage aren't a priority for me, that I'm taking my time, would rather be single than in a poor marriage, stuff like that. He then says "I think every woman should have 6 kids at least". WTF?

Then I think I'll just watch his head explode...I then reveal that I'm CFBC, that I will never pop a child out of my womb.

He says, "So you want to be a lonely old woman"?

WTF again?!

At this point, I just told him to go back to the 50's where he belongs & blocked him. LOL!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 6:49am

Well if everyone was rational and reasonable in the world, we probably wouldn't need quite as many message boards.


Guys like him are the reason someone invented the block feature in the first place.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 9:24am

Then I think I'll just watch his head explode...I then reveal that I'm CFBC, that I will never pop a child out of my womb.

CFBC???? what does this mean?

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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 10:02am
CFBC = Child Free By Choice
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 10:09am

I'm also CFBC (child free by choice). If having a kid was my only ambition in life, I would have done that years ago. I never met the right guy to have kids with and never had that burning desire (or time clock) that a lot of women have.

I think I might have asked that guy if he thought he was NOT a loser because he had 4 kids and 2 failed marriages. I'm curious what his definition of "success" is if he questions you about being a loser. And while I've also wondered if other men wondered the same about me (as to why I've never been married and if there was something "wrong" with me), I can't say I'd want to trade places with so many people I've known who are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage. And I also want to shout to some of these single guys that single women with NO CHILDREN should be quite attractive to them. A woman could have kids who are well-behaved and good natured, but that will always be something for a guy to consider if he decides to date you long-term or possibly marry you. Even if he says otherwise, I still believe that adding kids to the mix of a dating relationship complicates things greatly. I've met guys who had their kids every weekend or every other weekend--it does make it hard to have a "normal" dating relationship, at least when the kids are still pretty young.

Perhaps this guy was trying to be cute or funny in a bizarre kind of way. Maybe he was even embarrassed at his own track record but didn't know how else to explain it other than question your background. However, it's clear who the loser is here, and it ain't you. :0

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 11:49am
I think he was trying to get a rise out of you by being so overly rude and inappropriate.
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 12:40pm

He's immature and obviously lacks a lot of everything. Next time block when someone gets nasty like that and try not to let it get to you (easier said then done).

SP

 
 
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 12:52pm

Add this one to the list:

Last night, some idiot views my profile and photos for the first time then had the sheer audacity to send me the following message:

I want to e** you and l*** your a**

My mouth FELL OPEN!! WTH? And hell yeah, I asked the same dayum question that you asked! (rolling eyes)

Idiot boy looked like such a dweeb. No, on second thought, even he gives dweebs a bad name. Of course, he's now forevuhmore in the BLOCKED pile.

NEXT!!

H~

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 1:31pm
People just love the anonymity of the Internet so their dysfunction can rise to the surface with gusto.