OMG !!!

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Registered: 06-27-2005
OMG !!!
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 10:53am

Ok- on a whim I decided to go out on a date with this other guy I have been "talking" to for about two-three months. He had winked at me on match and I found him very handsome, kind of too good to be true- handsome, and thought oh well- he probably won't contact me again... well he did and after about two weeks of emailing we started talking on the phone. Since then, we talked maybe once a week, nothing major. He sounded nice and all that. But I was starting to see more and more of Teddy, so I really didn't put much effort into this other guy. Well, he asked me out Saturday night, and since I was doing nothing esle but watching the Redskins game, I agreed. Anyway, we went and had dinner, and when I laid eyes on him I was blown away. There was an instant attraction and I could feel he felt the same way. We had great conversation and neither of us wanted the evening to end so we agreed to watch a movie at my apartment. (normally I don't do this, but I felt safe and no red flags)
So we watched a movie and half way through he asked if he could hold my hand, and then after the movie he did kiss me. But after that first kiss, it was like elecricity exploded betwen us. Now nothing happened but kising. But we could have so seriously done some other things, but we refrained.

After he left, my knees were so weak I had to lean against the door for support. I cannot think of any other time that I have felt like this. ANd I can't get him out of my head, I am smiling and in a great mood. And I am scared stiff b/c I know that even though I am looking for LTR and he might be as well, he and I are going to have to have that conversation very soon. This chemistry is so powerful I am afraid we might hit the sheets before too long.

I cannot believe this.... I have never felt this kind of attraction for a man. It's a very scary thing!!!

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: kae_n_me
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:14am

I love that feeling!

See good thing you gave it a whirl and went out with him. Who would have thunk it.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 2:55pm

Did I miss an update on Teddy? What's new with the two of you? Is it over?


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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 3:35pm

Hey-

No Teddy and I are still dating. We have not had any talk of exclusivity, so I thought that I would go ahead and go out with this other guy. I just can't help feeling scared about this other guy. I mean for the first time in years...I am having intense feelings for someone. I am afraid that he is not looking for LTR as I am. But I won't know until I have that discussion. Now normally I wouldn't have that talk for awhile, but this chemistry is so intense that I am afraid that if I give into it before we have any type of "talk", I will be on my way to a casual sex relationship. (And part of me says that's ok!)
I'm telling you I feel like I have been put under a spell!

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Registered: 11-04-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 3:48pm

I got swept up in one of these myself. I wasn't already seeing someone at the time, but we met through OLD, had an instant attraction, got totally infatuated with each other, and then it crashed and burned. The breakup took a lot out of me. In the end, I'm glad to have experienced it, if only to learn that physical chemistry, no matter how great, is only one part of a satisfying relationship. But while I was in it, it was euphoric and I couldn't believe someone so charming and handsome had the hots for me. A part of me thinks everyone should indulge these desires, but just don't take it too seriously and certainly don't mistake intense physical chemistry for a deep, emotional connection.

That said, good luck and enjoy yourself.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 4:27pm

"don't mistake intense physical chemistry for a deep, emotional connection"

Believe me, I wouldn't even if I could!! I have been through so much already in my past- I don't have it in me to make an emotional connection with anyone right now!

Thanks for you input!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: kae_n_me
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 2:05am
certainly dont want to spoil it for you but I had a similar experience at the beginning with one guy I met last year. I could only see how gorgeous he is, he played guitar so well, he spoke 3 languages fluently with no accent, he was such a gentleman and worked as a reporter, knew the best spots in town... it was like a dream and he was really hot. To complicate things he fell for me and I was so proud of myself for attracting him, it took few weeks before we had sex but 2 weeks after being in this vague relationship I started to notice that he is really childish and it was such a turn off. I stopped seeing him as attractive as before and really decided to drop everything and disappear. I still meet him once every few months at parties or for lunch but certainly would like to keep my short fling with him secret as I dont intend to worry my future boyfriend with this guy around. I hope yours would be a better long lasting relationship but just keep in mind all possibilities are still open as you dont know the guy well and you never know what happens.Dont want to be pessimistic. Enjoy it while still checking other options. Only when you feel he is right for LTR , this normally comes after a few weeks of dating should you consider stopping seeing others.
G00D LUCK