OMG! Just ghost, will you????

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OMG! Just ghost, will you????
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 1:21am

Why the heck do men think that you want it rubbed in your face that they've met someone else? Just ghost already...we haven't even met, for crying out loud.

I just got an email replete with details about how this guy I just started emailing yesterday ran into a female friend from high school last night, how they spend the day together today (including what they did), how he's enjoying the obvious connection, and he's "sure I'll understand".

To add insult to injury, he ended with "Good Luck!".

I'm sure he thinks he's a good guy for sending the email. I just want to give him the finger with both hands, the arrogant, self-centered, smug SOB.

SO rude. Gaah!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 6:44am
Maybe a bit too stuck on himself....thinking you're all *into* him already.....ugh
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Registered: 06-16-2003
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 9:55am
Yuck, YUCK! Talk about TMI. Well, Sheri, imagine what it owuld be like to go OUT with this socially inept man....and be happy...
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 10:01am

Some men are total losers!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 10:50am

Ugh. What a moron. We really don't need the intimate details, thanks though!

Sounds similar to a guy I had chatted with from eH. I'd posted about him that he'd called on a Tuesday wanting me to meet the next day - dinner and then meeting his friends afterward! Yikes. I responded back that it was too short notice and how about another night where just we went to dinner and then play it by ear after that. He seemed fine with that but between the two of us, we were busy until the following Wednesday (he claimed he was out of town for the weekend until Tue.). So I emailed Tuesday night to see if we were still on b/c I hadn't heard from him. He emails back this long, stupid note of how he'd met someone and really thought there was chemistry and since he was a "one woman man" he didn't feel it was fair to go out with me. I almost emailed back with a "Whatever!" but instead I just closed him.

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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:08pm

Yes, I was tempted to write back that I don't like guys with mustaches anyway but I just deleted his emails instead. What a jerk!

Then this morning I get an angry email from a guy who lives on an island several hours away, because I told him I wasn't really interested due to the distance but he sounded like a good guy and I'd be happy to stay in touch as friends. He goes on and on about crime in the city and good luck finding the "scurvy" guy who lives here. Delete!!!

I'm really close to just giving up. I never thought I'd say that but I'm just so discouraged right now. I suppose a break is in order.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:46pm

Yep... you know when it's getting to you, it's time to pause. Sometimes the absurdity of it all makes you sit back and laugh though. The ones we want to stick around ghost and the ones we don't want won't ghost to save our lives!


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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:51pm

I am so completely there with you. I am SO discouraged right now. After the mediocre meet with eH guy, there's another guy that I have been chatting with that I am not excited about and then email guy (he responded back with an email saying that we were on the same page and he'd call this weekend. he did while I was working in the yard and I didn't get it until this morning). One guy that I was interested in on eH (he was my age, a chef, attractive and seemingly intelligent and charming) closed me because "the distance between us is too great". I live 15 minutes from his suburb. I'd thought about doing the pathetic groveling that eH lets you do now and asking for a 2nd chance, but I can't bring myself to do it. It's so... SAD.

My eH membership is up on the 27th. At that time, I will not be active anywhere. I found one guy on CL that sounded interesting. I might email him and/or put an ad out there, but I need a break. I am so tired of no chemistry dates and the ones I think I'd like closing me before even giving me a chance.

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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 1:00pm

You can say that again!!!

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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 1:13pm
He could have said I met someone and want to see what develops – end of story. I’ve done that before just in case it doesn’t work out then I can contact them in the future, if you ghost they may not give you a shot-so be darned if you do and darned if u don’t, ha! But TMI with his side but don’t worry about it or take it personally that’s just old! Maybe a break would be good if you’re this upset? Hang in there! ;-)
 
 
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 1:26pm

Oh, I'm not taking it personally in the sense I feel rejected...I could really care less about the guy--he has a mustache for crying out loud, LOL! If he had ghosted, I would have been perfectly fine with it. I just hate that he felt he needed to be so rude and insulting.

Yes, a simple one line, sorry, I've met someone else would have been marginally ok (although *completely* not necessary). But this was truly insulting.

I am never NOT annoyed at getting "thanks but no thanks" emails (I really, really hate them), but you're right...to be *this* pissed off is a sign I need a break.

Sheri

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