OMG! Just ghost, will you????
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OMG! Just ghost, will you????
| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 1:21am |
Why the heck do men think that you want it rubbed in your face that they've met someone else? Just ghost already...we haven't even met, for crying out loud.
I just got an email replete with details about how this guy I just started emailing yesterday ran into a female friend from high school last night, how they spend the day together today (including what they did), how he's enjoying the obvious connection, and he's "sure I'll understand".
To add insult to injury, he ended with "Good Luck!".
I'm sure he thinks he's a good guy for sending the email. I just want to give him the finger with both hands, the arrogant, self-centered, smug SOB.
SO rude. Gaah!
Sheri

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You guys take things too personal. and this will make your experience bitter. lighten up!
When I m emailing someone I know chances are 90% it wont work I m sure you too know this) so I know ahead that he might be happier with another person and I dont feel I m competing with the other woman. I m not in the mindset of a relationship before it even started!!
I personally would not email the details if we are just at the emailing stage but certainly if we had set a phone rendez-vous then I would appologize and explain that IT IS NOT YOU why I wont call but it is just that I met someone really nice and I wont to be exclusive... Remember he has't met you so he can not imply anything about you in his email.
chill out!
J
Are you even bothering to really READ my posts??? I don't CARE that he met another woman, I don't CARE that he's not pursuing me...we exchange TWO EMAILS. I had no attachment to this guy. I am NOT feeling rejected or not good enough. I am feeling angry that he felt the need to RUB IT IN MY FACE after 2 frickin' emails. I would have been FINE if he ghosted (I would have preferred it actually)...that is not the point. The point is that he was so arrogant and self-centered he thought I would CARE that he was taking his attentions away from me and why. He needs to get over himself.
Sheri
Hey Juliara... you've been on board for a while, surely you've noticed that our dear Sheri is the QUEEN of keeping it real! When someone is distressed she's usually among the first to remind us "don't take it personally, you need a thick skin to do OLD, don't let one jerk get you down" etc.
She knows it. She lives it. But we all get irritated sometimes.
I agree the guy was over the line... if he really felt the need to write anything at all, it would have been enough to say "I met someone else that I'd like to give my full attention to, good luck and bye." Sheri still would have been annoyed by the email (especially the
Thanks...I am well over this but I stand by my right to be ticked off by his boorish behavior. Tacky behavior will *always* annoy me, there's just no getting around it...I yam who I yam! But no, I'm not dwelling on it...other than to correct those who think that I'm taking it as a rejection ;-).
Sheri
>>I think his intentions might have been polite until he crossed the lines with too much info. As you, I'd much rather a guy tell me he's not interested, but when they ramble on about some other girl and how great she is, well there's just no need for it in my eyes.<<
That's what I was trying to say as well. If a guy says he met someone, then great. I wish him luck and thank him for being honest.
When he gushes to me about how amazing and wonderful SHE is - what is the point? It's not necessary, and feels like he's comparing her to me. That's the line where it becomes rude.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Just finished reading the rest of the posts...
My 2 cents is that this board is a place to vent frustrations. Just because someone has a frustrating moment with dating (online or otherwise) does not mean they are too sensitive and need to "lighten up" and "chill out."
NWW is not letting this situation ruin her life for pete's sake - she was just, rightfully, annoyed and sharing it with us.
We ALL get annoyed and frustrated with things, and should not be made to feel stupid or naive for expressing those feelings.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Everyone gets down about online dating at times and this board, imo, is to be able to vent and to receive the support you need from people who understand.
If online dating is so easy for you and you never get discouraged why even visit the board? Afterall, you've got it all together, right?
I notice there is a high level of frustration floating around here. But hey there is also Yoga and other types of physical activities to make people feel better. Everyone should try them and oh yeah there is men and there is movies, danse, language classes,cooking, family and friends! for those who get my point ;~)
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