OMG....What should I do?????

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Registered: 11-04-2004
OMG....What should I do?????
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:18pm

I put my profile in Match.com in 01/06 and met W at the end of the month. Went out on date for few times and beginning 04/06, we started to date seriously. See each other just about two/three Friday or Sat during the month. He spent time at my place and I'd been in his place as well. Don't talk on the phone much.... However, we agreed to be exclusive and turn off our profiles. I did mine. He told me he can't turn his off because his computer logs him in automatically. I offered to show him how but he said his membership was about to expire and Match will disable his account without his involvement, and said he has no desire to find someone else.

He hardly return my call or email claiming his work was so hectic and can't get away from the meetings, we still see each other though. However, I feel something funny, so I put another profile (A) in Match with different photo (my friend's photo-she agreed). Yesterday, I saw W online, so I signed in as A and sent him a couple of introduction messages...he replied. He said he has not been in a relationship for over a year. Not sexually active for that entire time. Went out for date few times but nothing serious, just holding hands and kissing etc... no sex. Claiming he can't find someone seems to match. He'd rather have a steady date than keep searching online because he's ready and serious for a long-term relationship. The last time he had a dinner with a woman was Friday (two days ago), she was someone he went out on a date before but nothing developed. They planned for a movie as well but it was too late. My blood was cold and my entire body shook up during the entire conversation.

Friday night, he told me his daughter was coming into town for Father's Day and he didn't know what her plan was so he'd rather not plan anything until he saw her.

And that creep went out to dinner with his old date and he didn't have sex for over a year...Give me a break.

By the way, he has his own company and many people know him in the community.

He's 54 yo, I'm 49. What should I do? Confront the jerk and tell him what I know or shut my mouth and count it as a loss and move on.

Thanks.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:47pm
Actually, there IS something like that out there. I once saw it. Cant remember now, but people post peoples pics with their bad stories about them. YIKES!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:49pm

Im sorry for what happened. Its so hard not to get sucked into games ... I know i SHOULDNT, but i could see myself doing what you did to "catch" someone if i were in that situation - & on 1 hand, its too bad b/c you end up hurt, but i suppose on the other hand, its better than to continue to be lied to.


I say you just tell him you just plain old KNOW he is a cheating liar - & let HIM figure it all out or wonder 4-ever. & walk far far away. R~

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Registered: 11-04-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 11:51pm

Thanks so much everyone for giving me your support and suggestion.

I wish all of you will never find yourself in my shoes EVER.

April

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