one date I'd rather forget

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Registered: 03-25-2003
one date I'd rather forget
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Tue, 12-20-2005 - 5:26pm

Last night I went for drinks with G- the other guy that I met at speed dating. We were flirting the whole night at the bar and both of us got a bit tipsy. We kissed and then I went to his place!!! I can't believe I did that! It is obvious that sex was the only thing he was after, he didn't give a damn about me. I have some mixed feelings about it, in a way I don't care and I don't have any feelings about it. On the other hand, I'm angry that he's such a jerk and I went along with it. I've also left my sun glasses at his place... so I will have to see him again to pick it up- but I've already told him that I will drop by near his work to get it off him. GGRRRRRR

Well to be honest I've never had a one night stand with anyone... it is so not me... so in a way I think I'm 27 and gotta experience some things, can't be a goody goody all the time! We did use a condom and I'm on the pill... I hope he doesn't have any disease or anything cos he went near the um you know without anything but I stopped him and told him to put on a condom before he went all the way in.

The good thing is that it is obvious now which guys to eliminate! Well T comes back today so I might see him thursday or friday... I miss him, I feel like he is the only decent guy and I feel like I've cheated on him- I know I haven't- but I wouldn't like to be in his shoes. Don't worry I will NOT tell him about G.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 5:32pm
I am so sorry, Red... I have been there done that... more than once. So I know what you're feeling. Don't beat yourself up and just know that it happens to the best of us. The important thing is- did you enjoy yourself? Did you get out of it what you needed to? Becuase that's what a one-night stand is mostly about.... I am 27 also and had 3 one night stands, and they were simply accidents, but I made sure that I had fun! And then I moved on. Just don't beat yourself up, okay?
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 6:40pm

Hey girl...


Look, don't fret over something you can't change. It's over and done with. Take whatever regrets you have and turn them into lessons for the future. We've all been there and done something similar, so no beating yourself up!


As for your glasses, either have him drop them off somewhere in the middle (and public) or forget them.


I'm glad you at least have T... he sounds like a nice guy, one worth exploring. ;o)



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Registered: 12-18-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 7:45pm
Two consenting adults had a little fun. Good for you! I don't know why he's the bad guy though. Seems like you were up for it too, right?
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:11am

*Hal rubs his eyes in disbelief*

Lots of glass houses are being broken..

*Hal rubs his eyes in disbelief again*

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:42am

Hal,
I love your sense of humor. We have to keep that sense of humor alive...
E
Red,
I agree with previous posts.....don't beat yourself up...move forward and learn whatever you can from it. Good luck.
E

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 9:51am

I agree you shouldn't beat yourself up over this, but a little slap against the side of your head might do you some good.

At 27, it should be obvious how dangerous it is to go to the home of a complete stranger.

At 27, it's time to stop making other people responsible for one's actions.

amjay

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 10:06am
Thanks amjay. You have restored my faith in this forum.