One month too long to wait?
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One month too long to wait?
| Sun, 11-26-2006 - 5:08pm |
Hi all!
I'm looking for some opinions. :) In general, they say that you should meet someone you've connected with on an online dating site ASAP so that expectations aren't made, etc. Yet at the same time, they say to move very slow when you've met someone you may be interested in.
I'm on match.com and a guy and I have sent three emails to eachother. I'd like to get together with him, but not until after Christmas. One because I want to find out a little more about him. Two because I've had poor net experiences in the past from moving to fast and thirdly because I'm flying home for Christmas and have a lot going on between now and then.
We haven't discussed meeting yet. Any thoughts will be appreciated! :)
Thank you!
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Yes, I think it's too long to wait, unless you're not planning on talking much between now and when you meet. It's too easy to build up unrealistic expectations otherwise and to get a sense that you "know" the person, when you don't. So if you can't even take time to meet for coffee until after Christmas, then I would space out your emails and/or phone calls so that you don't get that false sense of intimacy before you meet.
Meeting in person sooner rather than later has nothing to do with whether you move slowly once you meet. Just because you meet in person doesn't mean that you are going to jump with both feet right into a relationship with that person.
Sheri
Thank you for your input! :) I appreciate it!
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