One week on CL-I'll never get men!
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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 8:21am |
So I've had an ad on craigslist for a week and here is a rundown of things men have done to turn me off. Some things I just don't understand but so be it.
1- Called to confirm our date for today from his car. I didn't even hear his voice the first time and the second time he called, I didn't understand a word he was saying because of disturbance. I told him to call me when he gets indoors and he didn't call after that last night. I'm not even sure if we have a date for tonight now and since his phone # is private on my caller ID, I can't even find out.
2- Told me by email, after I asked him where he's traveled to, that maybe we could take a trip together someday. Geez, can you wait until we meet before you start feeding me the cheesy lines I've heard a million times before. Also asked me what I'm doing single since I'm so pretty and all. Are you serious or do I really need to explain this?
3- Asked to see more pictures of me even though I sent him 3 that really show off the way I look. Still wanted more pictures and seemed disappointed. I suggested we talk and I'd like to hear his voice since we'd sent about 4 emails each and he said he's not sure if I want to hear his voice. He gave me his # but with enthusiasm like that, should I call? He has a very self-depracating and sarcastic sense of humor but still...
4- Gave me their phone #'s after my first email with enclosed pics. I just can't seem to make myself call a man unless I know something of substance about him and the interest is intense as I'm kind of old-fashioned and like the man to make all the gestures, so I haven't called.
5-Wrote a book about all his interests, stating his preference for a restaurant for every type of cuisine he likes, each of his favorite musicians, etc. Wouldn't it be more interesting to talk about these things or go to some of those restaurants with me?
6- Told me he's looking for something casual or friends with benefits after I explicitly stated in my ad that I'm not looking for something with no strings attached. Another said he's just going through a divorce and also wants something casual. Why do they try if you state that it's not an option?
Edited 11/11/2006 10:13 am ET by ising101

My thoughts:
1. I'd email him and explain what happened (that you couldn't understand him on the phone) and ask him to call to confirm.
2. Ding.
3. Ding.
4. Tell him that you'd like to email a couple more times before progressing to the phone, and that you'll give him your number when you're ready (but be careful not to give the idea that you're an endless emailer).
5. He sounds self-absorbed. Ding.
6. You can't force people to actually read your profile. Just delete these emails and move on.
Sheri
Thanks Sheri...
#1 called just now. Said he got home late and we're on for tonight. He's the one I'm looking most forward to meeting and who really wowed me with his email and phone conversation. Wish me luck!
#4 I will call just to see what he's like. He suggested getting together in his last email so if I like him over the phone, I will go for it.
The rest, I will pass on I'm afraid, even the ones who give me their numbers. I like a man who wants to be the man and pursue me and who doesn't give out his number just because he finds a woman physically attractive while he knows nothing about her. Maybe others feel differently but an assertive and selective man is important to me.
"Asked to see more pictures of me even though I sent him 3 that really show off the way I look. Still wanted more pictures and seemed disappointed."
I used to think, "WTF?!" when they asked for more pictures even though they'd seen plenty...then it dawned on me
OK, I would not NEXT a guy for giving me his phone number and not asking!