online dating

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Registered: 08-18-2008
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Tue, 10-30-2012 - 5:59pm

I just ended 3 months of online dating at match.  I met 5 and stood up 1.   I did notice several men who were what I consider a good catch would email me and then try to weasle me in on a Sunday sometime later.  They would try to meet 3 women in 1 weekend.   Several emailed me and I would respond and never hear from them again.  Some of them don't seem to care whether things work out or not..   Your perception of them is never how they appear in person.  I'm just wondering whether it's worth it to renew,   I know my age is a factor here as well.  I haven't been going out lately, but I was going to try to go out once in a while.  

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 12-21-2012 - 4:58pm

 << I was still OK with the age b/c I was so attracted to him. He was brilliant. But the nasty personality made the whole visit very unpleasant. >>

I'm sorry, I hope that he paid for the trip since it sounds like he was the main beneficiary. I screened out a lot of women who were not completely honest with me and since I asked a lot of questions and listened well, it usually only took a few hours to know whether or not I had an honest one (I'm good at weeding out a liar). Despite listing honesty as a deal breaker on my 'about me' section, you would be surprised how many women protested being rejected for 'one little lie.'

Just curious, where does honesty stack up on your list of priorities?

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Fri, 12-21-2012 - 5:27pm

Glen,

Your story is very inspirational. Congraduations on finding love. I wish you and your soon-to-be wife a long and happy life together.

I think the key is not to give up and keep on treking. 

Out of curiosity I went online and the guy now has a visible profile on the website. When he contacted me back in April, his profile was hidden. Last log on was a week ago when he called me.

 

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: stefson
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 12:03am
I'm kinda of use to being single. That's funny you mention height. I fell for a guy once that was only about 5'5". There was something very macho about him.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: stefson
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 12:20am

You're right, I need to put the work in, and it is work.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 6:48pm

I have to admit. Height is the only apparent superficial requirement I have. When I was younger, I had a much longer list for phyical attributes, age, etc... but now, reduced to that, still superfical...oh well, at every stage of the game, I always have something that holds me back.

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