Online dating Dilema?

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Registered: 05-30-2005
Online dating Dilema?
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 4:56pm

I've been talking to a guy I met off of match.com for the past 6 months. We are finally meeting in 2 weeks. I really feel like I like this guy ( and I know people may think its naive, since we haven't met yet) but I do. We talk atleast once a day and have been for the past 3 months. It just seems we click so much! I am very hesitant to meet him ....because in all the pics I sent him I am 10 lbs lighter....Its not that I did that on purpose its just those were all the pics I had. Please be honest because I want to be pre-pared for what will happen when we meet...if we meet.....guys could 10 lbs determine if you could see a future with someone?? Is 10 lbs very noticeable to you???

Also do u think there is something wierd about a guy who would wait this long?

My measurements are 34 c 27 waist 37 hips...I'm 5'2 and weigh 126.

Also I posted this on askmen.com and they all attacked me saying I was a big fatty! Is this site just a bunch of bitter guys or are their responses realistic??

Thanks for any responses!!!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:23pm

You are not overweight at all. You might be the disappointed one. It sounds like a big red flag to email and talk back and forth and not meet until 6 months later. Are you a long distance from each other?

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:23pm

aberoyle7382...


Pianoguy would like you to RE-LAX!

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Registered: 05-30-2005
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:53pm
I agree about the talking for this long and not meeting, but that was completely my fault not his. The only reason I have hope he isn't a wacko is because I know I'm not! lol. Well...it turns out that we know a few of the same people....my best friend is dating his childhood buddy...and there are a few other connections as well.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 6:40pm

Well, I don't think 10 pounds is a tremendous amount of extra weight to be carrying around, but still, I likely would have mentioned it during one of those many online conversations. If anything, just to be clear he knew I wasn't trying to be misleading.

As for how an extra 10 pounds might appear on someone, I think it just depends on the person. More specificially- height, frame, and how evenly the weight is distributed. On some, it's barely noticeable. On others, it goes straight to the tummy, legs...what have you.

You certainly don't sound like a "big fatty" to me. And as far as being critiqued by the porn addicts on Askmen.com, don't give it a second thought. While occasionally humorous, the content is mostly representative of the basic male pig.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 7:02pm

a lot of women on dating sites say they're "of a certain body type" when in fact, they're not. lots of people, male and female, misrepresent themselves online... that's the nature of the game. it's not about fat, it's about misrepresentation.

i don't blame these men... you would't want to meet a guy who says he's 5'9" and 170 only to find he's 5'9" and 270.

until you meet him in person and can see for yourself how you get along nothing will really matter. all he is is a guy you chat with online or whom you met online... nothing more.

where the road meets pavement is where it really is. until you meet him in person, don't worry so much. meet him for a pizza and enjoy yourself no matter what. he may be a match and he may not be... the deal with online dating is that you take your chances :)

now go out and be confident!

if anyone is misrepresenting himself, you'll find out soon enough. don't keep typing to a virtual stranger without a meet date, it's a waste of time. no need to carry on a "virtual" (aka fantasy) relationship until you know if you got it going on in person.

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Registered: 02-22-2005
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 7:46pm

"if anyone is misrepresenting himself, you'll find out soon enough. don't keep typing to a virtual stranger without a meet date, it's a waste of time. no need to carry on a "virtual" (aka fantasy) relationship until you know if you got it going on in person."

Wow, that really hit home for me. Thanks. I know you're not sure why but wow, I get it!

LilRocket

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 1:03am
Congratulations on the 6 month anniversary. Don't you think it would be rushing it to meet before a year? And no, btw - I don't think 10lbs is anything to worry about. Have a few bowls of Raisin Bran in the days leading up to your meet and you may even be able to fix the concern rather quickly.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:41pm

>>Have a few bowls of Raisin Bran in the days leading up to your meet and you may even be able to fix the concern rather quickly.


Dude...

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:43pm
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:57pm

>>could 10 lbs determine if you could see a future with someone?


Honey, if *all* he was interested in was your body, do you really think he would have carried on 6 months worth of conversation without meeting?

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