Online Dating Fatigue

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Online Dating Fatigue
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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 6:53am

Saw this article on Huffington Post about online dating fatigue

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 7:28am

Yep and yep and yep.

I know everyone will say this is not true but I believe it is true.. I think its def. our age Florida.. I am also 57 and have been on OLD since 2008.. I have had dates but not matches.. Well? Two that I would have liked to date but they passed on me.. Guess why?They said that I was lovely and blah blah but I find out

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 11:54am

This is funny cause I saw this article last night too--Of course I am big into OLD fatigue.

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 2:52pm

The best advice I can give to you because I'm in the same boat is really take a hard look at how hard you are trying.

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 5:03pm

Hi;

I sort of agree and disagree... I am not looking so hard for a man and I dont think Fla. is either.. I think we are just frustrated because we do go out and have lives but we are not meeting quality men or like me a very small pool of men..

I dont have any problems with picking wrong.. BTDT...but I do have frustration with less available men or less opportunities available to me at 57 years old.. A fact for sure...

I think that is what Florida meant in her initial post.. that there are just slim pickins and I agree.

Although I agree at times that maybe a wonderful man will come along when we least expect it but one has to put in some effort and work and that might mean singles events, OLD, networking or whatever.

My theory is that nothing just comes along in life without work and that would include a man and a good relationship. If that means getting oneself to a very emotionally healthy state of mind then I am there and yet I have no man.. I have worked on myself from the inside out for years and still no man.. I dont come off as desperate and I dont need a man but I would def. like one...

So hopefully he will be on the next bus coming down the pike (lol)

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 6:05pm

I agree with your assessment of what I am saying. I don't think I am trying too hard. And I am so tired of "you'll meet when you least expect it" or its variant "You'll meet when you stop looking." It's such a tired out cliche.

I also don't think "looking for love" should be like a part-time job either. And it isn't the only thing I think about, honest. I do think it's way harder to meet men when you are older...I never used to have this much trouble, and there was no such thing as OLD when I was in my 20s.

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 7:21pm

Oh; yeah; I totally agree with you...

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 9:44pm
swimercise wrote:

The best advice I can give to you because I'm in the same boat is really take a hard look at how hard you are trying.

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 1:19pm
I would think the older a woman gets, the harder it is for her to find a partner. Attraction starts about looks. Even though so many women's profiles state that they look younger their age, I agree that men tend to look for chronologically younger women. By the way, this statement of looks it becomes a meaningless declaration in my opinion.

I have dated women who were older than me and their age did show and it did bother me even though I did not want to have it make a difference.

I have been told that I do look about ten years younger and therefore gave me confidence to consider younger women plus it is a life stage thing as well. I had my kids at 36 and 40 yrs old and no way I am close to retiring because of my economic setbacks. So most women in my age group when I was looking, had kids out of the house and ready to travel. In order to find women so still had kids at school/home and still needed to work were 10 yrs younger.

Mark
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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 2:52pm

I see a logical reason there for you to be dating a younger woman.

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 3:12pm

I think if a woman is going out to places to meet men they lose themselves a bit.

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