Online Dating Fatigue

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Online Dating Fatigue
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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 6:53am

Saw this article on Huffington Post about online dating fatigue

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 2:49pm

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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 1:35pm

I believe that we do have to be proactive in finding someone at these ages.. Its just a fact of life..

I for one do not come across as desperate when I am out or in social situations.. I know that I dont because some men have actually told me that I am confident and self assured and if I have worked on myself to get to a very good mental state and my self esteem is so much better than it is showing.

I see nothing wrong with scouring a room and checking out the guys.. As a matter of fact the laws of attraction theory states that if we do nothing we get nothing.. If we are proactive and put out feelers and let the universe know we are looking for something it is supposed to provide for us.. So one doesnt have to come across as desperate just because you are checking out men or even flirting..

If I was that desperate I would have been in a relationship with one of those dates I met over the last year.. I just didnt feel it was in my best interest so I am waiting ...Waiting for what??? I dont know ..

I wish it were that easy because if it were we would all be in a relationship by now.. A good one.

just my two cents..!!!

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 5:45pm

I agree with you that fate plays a role in meeting, but "Chance favors the prepared mind." And since when is noticing attractive men at a gathering TRYING TOO HARD? Why would I smell of desperation, just because I am noticing men in a social situation? I will not be "scouring the room." Plus where else am I going to meet these men if not in social situations (other than OLD)?

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 4:09pm

I do agree that fate has a huge part in how things happen.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 3:18pm

YES....being invited to an art gallery by a friend and looking at the men there IS TRYING TOO HARD.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 3:12pm

I think if a woman is going out to places to meet men they lose themselves a bit.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 2:52pm

I see a logical reason there for you to be dating a younger woman.

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 1:19pm
I would think the older a woman gets, the harder it is for her to find a partner. Attraction starts about looks. Even though so many women's profiles state that they look younger their age, I agree that men tend to look for chronologically younger women. By the way, this statement of looks it becomes a meaningless declaration in my opinion.

I have dated women who were older than me and their age did show and it did bother me even though I did not want to have it make a difference.

I have been told that I do look about ten years younger and therefore gave me confidence to consider younger women plus it is a life stage thing as well. I had my kids at 36 and 40 yrs old and no way I am close to retiring because of my economic setbacks. So most women in my age group when I was looking, had kids out of the house and ready to travel. In order to find women so still had kids at school/home and still needed to work were 10 yrs younger.

Mark
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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 9:44pm
swimercise wrote:

The best advice I can give to you because I'm in the same boat is really take a hard look at how hard you are trying.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 7:21pm

Oh; yeah; I totally agree with you...

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