Saw this article on Huffington Post about online dating fatigue
YES....being invited to an art gallery by a friend and looking at the men there IS TRYING TOO HARD.
I do agree that fate has a huge part in how things happen.
I agree with you that fate plays a role in meeting, but "Chance favors the prepared mind." And since when is noticing attractive men at a gathering TRYING TOO HARD? Why would I smell of desperation, just because I am noticing men in a social situation? I will not be "scouring the room." Plus where else am I going to meet these men if not in social situations (other than OLD)?
I believe that we do have to be proactive in finding someone at these ages.. Its just a fact of life..
I for one do not come across as desperate when I am out or in social situations.. I know that I dont because some men have actually told me that I am confident and self assured and if I have worked on myself to get to a very good mental state and my self esteem is so much better than it is showing.
I see nothing wrong with scouring a room and checking out the guys.. As a matter of fact the laws of attraction theory states that if we do nothing we get nothing.. If we are proactive and put out feelers and let the universe know we are looking for something it is supposed to provide for us.. So one doesnt have to come across as desperate just because you are checking out men or even flirting..
If I was that desperate I would have been in a relationship with one of those dates I met over the last year.. I just didnt feel it was in my best interest so I am waiting ...Waiting for what??? I dont know ..
I wish it were that easy because if it were we would all be in a relationship by now.. A good one.
just my two cents..!!!