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online dating frustrations
| Sat, 08-20-2005 - 12:54pm |
Does anyone have this problem with online dating. I've been on match for a couple of months now and I decide sometimes to be proactive and either wink or email some of the guys I find that I'm interested in. I have only gotten one email back from maybe like 12 of the guys that I showed interest in. I get frustrated because most of the men that email me I'm just not interested in and one of the ones that emailed me first that was really cute and seemed really great lives over 200 miles away from me (go figure) I've never in my life thought that I was unattractive in fact I think I'm pretty attractive, not super hot or anything but definately above average but it seems like no man is returning my winks or emails that I'm interested in. I've also said that I have a great career, very happy with my life, just bought a 2 bedroom condo and enjoy doing a ton of different things and have a great sense of humor but this still doesn't lure them in. Maybe I should just take a hiatus from this thing because I'm really not getting the responses that I want. Then I begin to think that I'm being too picky but I'm not really because I feel as if I have the whole package to offer and would like to meet a man that has a lot to offer as well. Sorry, just venting frustrations now. Maybe it's just a southern California thing, there are just too many beautiful, successful single women out here and overall too much competition

You need to have patience. In actual fact, 1/12 responses is good in OLD terms.
Perhaps you should focus on the guys who respond, rather than bemoan those who do not.
"Maybe it's just a southern California thing, there are just too many beautiful, successful single women out here and overall too much competition"
I highly doubt it......lol.
If that is getting frustrating for you, then I would definitely take a break, as that's normal for OLD.
Sheri
Hi,
I am sorry you are feeling down about it...and I can see that it does happen and probably often to many people. They say OLD is a tough place. I have been warned. There is a lot of competition, and I like I said during my first experiences with chatting, etc.,...The guys seem to like younger women too. So, if the guy is 40, he seems to like 20-30 year olds,- and 30 year olds like the 20 year olds. That is just the way it seems, and I don't know how old you are. So, maybe that is irrelevent if you *are* in your 20's. LOL. In any case, I personally wouldn't give up. Did you notice if these guys are online often to get your winks, etc.?
Sara
Hi!
Just wanted to tell you I'm equally frustrated with the whole thing and I feel better knowing that I am not the only one. I too am attractive, educated and fun and I think my profile reflects this. But it seems those I wink at or send email to, just ignore me, but I get many emails and winks from guys who are 15yrs older than me (my profile says I'd like to meet someone w/o kids and that I want kids some day and you wouldn't believe how many men who have kids and don't want anymore write me. I have to laugh about it....otherwise I'll cry ;))
I did take a couple months off for the summer and revamped my profile a bit and just went back on recently. I feel a little better having taken a break, so hopefully that will do it.
Good luck to you!