is online dating a good idea?

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Registered: 06-15-2004
is online dating a good idea?
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Sun, 06-07-2009 - 4:44am

Hi everyone. I'm a 31 years old girl that been living a single life for 3 years and loving it. I traveled , partying, having fun and not worrying about marriage at all.
Well until recently, I had a wake up call and realizing that all my good friends are moving on with their life. Either settle down having a family or in serious relationship.

So for having lots of time for myself recently, it leads me to have deep thinking and questions back about values and life. (Not that I'm scared to be alone, I actually enjoy having time for myself)
But yes, I do get lonely sometimes. And the truth, I start have the feeling of 'wanting' to share something with someone special. And I think its time for me to open my heart again.

However, the problem is, its hard for me to meet good quality guys these days. Either they're taken or I have no chemistry with.
How do I find or meet people?

So, I thought online dating is not a bad idea. Nonetheless, I'm pretty new with this Online dating things and honestly I'm afraid of whats out there.

Before I commit to Online dating, I would like hear some opinions from anyone that willing to share with me.

So please be free to let me know what you guys have in mind or experiences. Gladly appreciated. :)

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 7:37pm
There isn't anything to commit to in OLD. Search around a site, see if anyone interests you, then subscribe for a month and contact people. You're not locked into a guy, a site, or anything else.
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Registered: 06-15-2004
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 8:37pm

Thanks a lot!!! Thats really good tips you given me, really appreciate it. :)

I'm going to try it and be careful in the same time.

I'm really grateful with this website, there's people out there giving me advice and I think thats awesome.

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Registered: 06-15-2004
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 8:39pm

Thank you for sharing your experiences and your thoughts with me.

:)

You giving me 'hope'.

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Registered: 06-15-2004
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 8:41pm
Thats so TRUE! Got it, nothing to be scared of. hehe..
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Registered: 04-21-2004
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 10:11pm

Hi - I'm 34, and found OLD really useful. You'll learn to weed through the profiles and what you do and don't like.

I'm definately not looking at the package the guy comes in - the best date I've had so far this time round on was with a farmer who's got cerebal palsy and walks with a cane!!

Another safety tip - I always give the following details to a friend: When and where we're meeting, his name, his phone number, the site we met on and his profile/screen name as a minimum. Line of work, part of the city he lives in etc also get given. If anything does go seriously wrong, he's more likely to be found (yes, I assume REALY REALLY bad outcomes). Never needed it to date, but I'm glad the info is out there.

Enjoy - you'll have some 'interesting' stories to tell your girlfirends, but that's actually part of the fun. I actually swapped disaster OLD stories with my ex on the second date!

Siggy

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Registered: 11-16-2008
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 12:37am
Hello, just wanted to add that its also wise to google his user name, and alternate email addresses that he provides and his telephone/cell number.
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Registered: 06-15-2004
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 2:14am

Good points! I'll keep that in mind, and for sure I'll contact bunch of my friends before I go for a date and I'll ask them to stand by if anything happens. haha..I'm such a freak.

And I think...I will take it really slow......like just go for a coffee/tea in the day. lol.

Thank u. :)

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Registered: 06-15-2004
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 2:19am

Aw...now i'm scared.

But point taken, google is absolutely a good idea. Thanks.

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 4:04pm

There is nothing wrong with online dating. I met my awesome boyfriend on POF a year ago and we are still going super strong. We are now thinking of buying

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Registered: 06-08-2009
Tue, 06-09-2009 - 10:55am
What is POF?

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