Online Dating Sucks!

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Registered: 05-18-2003
Online Dating Sucks!
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 7:52pm

Help me out on this one guys......

I've been trying this online dating thing. In the last month I've met five guys online and each time the same thing has happened to me. They contact me first. They say I'm nice looking after seeing my current picture. They say my profile is interesting. We exchange e-mails for about a week until THEY ask if I'd like to talk on the phone. I give them my number and we have several nice phone conversations before THEY ask me if I'd be interested in meeting. We agree when and where to meet but on the day of the meeting THEY either call and cancel or stand me up. After five times I really don't understand what is going on or what I'm doing wrong? Please advise!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 9:46pm

Wow, that's a run of bad luck, for sure! I've been doing OLD for years and have only been stood up once...so I'm sorry to hear you've had it happen to you so many times!

I did have a period of my life, though, when it seemed like every guy I met turned into a "disappearing man"...and I'm talking after a bunch of dates, not 1 or 2. They would just stop calling, and stop returning calls. I think it was at least five men in a row who did that, and it sure wasn't fun.

But, being the eternal optimist that I am, I kept going. I've actually met some nice guys online, including a few I've had r'ships with (that ended for various reasons).

I think you just got a run of flakes, as it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong (except maybe emailing and talking on the phone for so long before meeting...I personally like to cut to the chase sooner). Hang in there!

Sheri




Edited 5/4/2005 11:04 pm ET ET by northwestwanderer
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Registered: 05-18-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 10:05pm
Thanks for your reply! I have had a few relationships with guys that I have met online, in fact, that is why I'm online again....I'm an optimist too. This time around its been different. Its been over a year since I've met someone online that wasn't a "flake" as you called them.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 10:12am

Wow, that is really a bad streak you have going!

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Registered: 04-13-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 4:47pm
I would feel so bad if that happened to me. I don't know how you're handling it smileann. I think I'd give up on online dating if it happened to me. That's just me though.
Ginger and NWW, I now agree with you that you should meet sooner than later. I wish I had've met the guy I did way earlier than I did. I know I wouldn't be hurting as bad now if I did. Smileann, I hope you have some luck with this soon.