ONLINE DATING VENTING!!!!

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Registered: 12-17-2003
ONLINE DATING VENTING!!!!
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Thu, 07-07-2005 - 3:08pm
I am in a psuedo relationship with a guy I met online.. no verbal committments. I met him on a "friendster"-esque, "people who want to meet people" site. we are with each other everyday, talk, chat, the whole thing.. BUT he still like to chat, IM, and even befriend girls from this site to this day. Girls that throw themelves at him... he even has phoned, talked to and hung out with a few of them since we met...how am i supposed to feel about this? i think im online dating jealous!
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 3:26pm

What do you mean "psuedo" relationship? Are you guys talking on the phone and seeing each other daily? Is it only an online relationship -- meaning just chatting via e-mail and/or text messaging? How do you know these women are throwing themselves at him and/or that he is even still meeting others? Did he tell you this personally?

Since he has made no "commitments", he is basically having fun! Regardless of the contact, I would suggest that you possibly limit the communication between the two of you if you are having feelings of "jealousy". Obviously you are developing feelings for this man and since the only behavior you can control is your own, I would suggest limiting the communication.

He seems to be pretty open about what he is doing and you may be seeking a more personable or one-on-one situation and this guy is not it. Of course, you could tell him how you feel and wait his response, but I don't know how long you guys have been conversing thus far. Also, based upon his behavior his response may be an "eye-opener" for you although his actions are clearly evident of a man just seeking to have fun!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 4:34pm

I don't understand...if you don't have any commitment with each other to date exclusively, then what's the problem?

Sheri