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| Sat, 12-03-2005 - 3:58pm |
What do you think about an online guy that asks you questions about your pictures you have or how old they are. I am a skinny person, but i have put on 15 to 20 pounds, and i still think i look good. He says he dont know how much difference that is, but he does not date over weight women. Does this guy sound like a jerk? I thought that your feelings were suppose to be seen after you dated or met them in person, like personality, attractiveness, sense of humor, not what you see on the outside. Should i tell them guy to get lost when he chats back in with ne?

I wouldn't be comfortable with someone who was that focused on looks...to the extent that he's afraid that skinny plus 20 pounds equals overweight. I would just ignore any further emails from him.
To avoid this problem in the future, though, why not have some current photos taken of you?
Sheri
See my post above about photo misrepresentation. I think it's important to post several pics of how you look now - this way they can see for themselves before meeting. Most men are "visual" first and foremost, I wouldn't take it personally it's just that with on line so many use old photos that guys and gals get gun shy and tend to ask "so how recent are your pics" before meeting; even I tend to ask. No matter how great of a human being you are or how funny etc., we all have certain things that draw us in or attract us to the opposite sex, that's just reality.
SP
Mind you, a guy wanting recent pics is one thing. One that doesn't want a girl unless she is skinny and model-like it another. 20 lbs can sit on a person differently. If you put 20 on my best friend, she looks heavy whereas I can hide it because of my height. So it's all relative.
My feeling is that your gut is telling you something just ain't right about this guy--listen to it.
Kerry