online when you're 60

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online when you're 60
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Sun, 08-05-2012 - 8:50pm

I put my profile on Match about two weeks ago and got a 3-mt. membership and put 59 on my profile even though I'm 60, so I wasn't sure if I would get any response.  Things have kind of slowed up, and I'm just wondering if it's a lost cause.   I do have one I'm supposed to meet later this week.  Should I also join a free site, too, or start hangin the bar scene?  I really can't join any clubs right now, because of work and finances, little free time.  That seems to go hand in hand with being single.  I decided not to do Match's Stir event happy hr., because I think everyone will be younger.   They will have more of these in the future.  Maybe I should just get a cat.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 12:35pm

Well the fact is, you just never know. Some people get really lucky right away doing OLD, others plug away at it for a long time and finally get results. Others plug away for a long time and get no result (results = a long-term relationship). If you're new to it, please don't take anything personally, and unfortunately, grow a thick skin. I would also recommend not soley relying on OLD and to get out to do things such as dancing which was suggested. As to bars, I think an upscale wine bar is a nice alternative and usually has some older folks in them. I used to go by myself to a nice wine bar in my neighborhood, but it really wasn't much fun. I felt somewhat self-concious, and ended up usually just talking to other women. I did meet a few men, but nothing ever came of it. 

I am 58, and up until last Novemeber, I had been doing OLD for four years. I did get dates, but none of them led to a relationship.

But you just never know. So much depends on where you live and who happens to be online at the time. It's easy to get discouraged at our age, so I would suggest not doing it for four years the way I did, although I took breaks.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:43am

I haven't been a subscriber to match in several months, so I guess since that time they have started those new services.  I read about Stir in a magazine article about OLD, but i don't know what First Impressions is.

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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 8:42am

I think I'll take your advice and find a place with dancing.  I did complain about Match's Stir event.  They said they're going to talk to their team, but who knows.  And I complained about their First Impressions add-on service.  They told me to try it again in 3 days.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 10:20pm

Hi Stefson--I'm going to be 55 in a week.  I think it's the general consensus that OLD is difficult when you're over 50, even though I keep reading statistics that say that baby boomers are the fastest growing group on OLD and a higher percentage of boomers use it than young people--probably because young people have more options for meeting in person.  I think if you already got a guy to meet in the 1st 2 weeks that's pretty good.  Of course you get a lot of interest as a new member.  You could also try free sites--no harm in that, but a lot of people seem to be on multiple sites.

As far as hanging out in bars, I think that's kind of pathetic for someone in our age group--you have to choose your venue carefully.  It seems to me that older guys go to places that focus on dancing.  You don't want to be hanging out in a bar that has 20 yr old people there.  You could always check out a meetup group for people your age--it doesn't cost money to join.

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