online when you're 60

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Registered: 08-18-2008
online when you're 60
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Sun, 08-05-2012 - 8:50pm

I put my profile on Match about two weeks ago and got a 3-mt. membership and put 59 on my profile even though I'm 60, so I wasn't sure if I would get any response.  Things have kind of slowed up, and I'm just wondering if it's a lost cause.   I do have one I'm supposed to meet later this week.  Should I also join a free site, too, or start hangin the bar scene?  I really can't join any clubs right now, because of work and finances, little free time.  That seems to go hand in hand with being single.  I decided not to do Match's Stir event happy hr., because I think everyone will be younger.   They will have more of these in the future.  Maybe I should just get a cat.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 8:12pm

Seriously how do you get multiple men interested?  I found it took a lot of work even to get one at a time--like after sending out many, many first emails & getting no response or the people who would contact me were so bad (no education, bad looking, menial jobs where I am a professional w/ a grad degree) I just gave it all up.  I am still not getting dates but at least I'm not wasting my time on the computer--instead I'm going out & having fun w/ male & female friends.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 6:59pm
I haven't emailed anyone yet, but I've met two people so far. The 2nd meet I mentioned a spot to meet, and then he suggested a spot, so I agreed since I knew where it was. When I arrived, I was impressed with this person, but as the night wore on, I realized something wasn't quite right, and he was evasive about his employmt. I said I had to leave after a couple cocktails and he walked me to my car. Then he tells me he walked to the restaurant and could I drive him home, that he wanted me to sleep on his sofa and then we would go sailing in the morning. I declined the offer. I brushed him off the next day when he sent me a message, and now I'm thinking it might be a good idea to carry some mace or whatever.
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Registered: 12-27-2001
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 10:36pm

Hi there, 

Glad to see some of the old OLD crowd here, posting excellent thoughts and advice. I agree with it all. 

OLD isn't easy, at least, not usually. Since it's a numbers game, you've got to plug at getting your numbers up, emailing, responding, working the room. 

Taking a break now myself, but when i make a comeback, I might take it slow. Not like the old days when I had multiple phone calls in one day and multiple dates in a week. (OK, not EVERY week.) I liked those balls in the air and several pots on the back burner. (I never exaggerate.)

Make sure you have F-U-N, go dancing, wine tasting, whatever you love. Don't let the number *60* slow you down. 

 

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 3:34pm
I agree, I used to have model of it when I was younger.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 1:36pm

It is a beautiful ship. 

dragowoman

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 10:59am

Yes I'm curious why you have a picture of the Bismarck?

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 11:08pm
That's something I didn't think about, social class, and I know exactly what you mean.
p.s. I like your battleship.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 8:15pm

A lot will have to do with what social class you are comfortable with as much as the ages of the crowd.  Many older women and men find that in their area there are not much available.  Also while you are working that puts you into a different box than a person who is retired.

dragowoman

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 4:19pm
I think you're right, an upscale bar. I will try that. I do have to grow this thick skin. One thing I haven't done is email anybody. I can't bring myself to do it.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 4:15pm

Yes, the Stir happy hour, I think it's geared toward younger, and it's evident in their commercials and from the photos.  I do think it's discriminatory, to not have one specifically geared toward the older membership.  I do plan to write them a letter about it.  

The First Impressions is you would be one of the first round profiles sent to the newest members.  I did a general search  to see where I would come up at a 50 mile radius age 50-70.  I was 23 pages back out of 112 pages after being a member for two weeks .  I did ask them about that.  Their team is looking into it.

 

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