Ooooh, BAD date! I was RIGHT! ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Ooooh, BAD date! I was RIGHT! ...
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 11:33am

I *still* have the willies! lol (eg: goosebumps!)


So, remember:

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 9:02am

If the guy is not willing to pay for dinners, he should invite his dates for coffee then.

If he is not willing to pay for coffee,I would pay for both of us sit there for 10 min max and then leave. I would n't want to waste any time with a cheap guy with absolutely no knowledge of ettiquette or courtesy.

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Registered: 02-20-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 9:16am
How awful! How did you sit there that long? What a cheapa$$! Cracks me up that he didn't order the sauce because it was $2. My mottos are: "Life is too short to drink rail" and "Life is too short for Motel 6" - I'm looking for a man with the same mindset. I think I would have thrown down my half and left. And the whole trying to be smart about wine and travel - has he been out of the northeast....ever?!?!? LOL I agree with whoever said the next date has GOT to be better!
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 10:08am

Oh dear...that sounds just painful! At least you got an amusing story

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 11:10am

Sheri,

With that type of guy, I suspect, rushing to pay your part of the bill might just make you more attractive and might make it more difficult to get rid of him afterwards. ;)

Seriously, I'm in the middle here. Like you, I would have made a move to pay for the check, but it wouldn't have been a signal that I didn't want to be courted but just a gesture of fairness. However, since he had proposed the place and the date in the first place, I would not have insisted that he let me pay my share if he had refused my offer to pay. In contrast, if I had initiated the date, I would have insisted on paying even if he offered to pay his share.

I think it comes down to it being good manners to offer to pay one's share, but bad manners to let someone else pay if you did the inviting. To me it's not so much about courting as about good manners and not being stingy.

Elsa

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