Opening e-mails

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Opening e-mails
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:16pm

Hi, OLD is so confusing at times. I recently signed back up with Match and have received some winks and out of the blue emails. However, when I try to make contact with someone new I frequently get No Response. With the emails I usually try to tie something personal about their profile in there so they know it's not just the picture and that I read what they had to say. Is there another approach I should be taking? Here's an example of what I may write.
Critiques are welcome!

Hello,

Just wanted to send a short message saying that I enjoyed reading your profile...it seems like we have many of the same interests - music, ACC basketball and just hanging out with friends. You sound like a lot of fun. After reading my profile, if you're interested, I'd like to hear from you.

Hope you're having a great weekend.

John

I've sent alot of these but personalized to each woman and the response has been close to zilch. I don't think I'm trying out of my league either. Should I make them longer or what?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:22pm

Some of them may not be paying members.

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Registered: 09-09-2004
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:31pm

Hi John - Your sample email sounds alot like the email I got from my husband when he tried contacting me back when we both did OLD. It was short and sweet and to the point. You have to remember that women get bombarded with tons of email, especially when they first sign up with OLD - what made my husband's stand out is that it was direct. I feel that your email responses are just fine "for me". That's not to say that all women will react the same way. You have to make your profile stand out (especially your pictures). If you feel up to it - you may want to post your member name here so we call critique it.

Good Luck,

Maryanne

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:36pm

Assuming you don't have any glaring red flags in your profile, this type of email should be fine. If someone were to send me that type of email, and I were interested in you based on your profile, I'd definitely respond.

Or rather I would if I were a subscriber...which I'm not. That might be one reason you aren't getting responses...maybe many of the women you are emailing aren't. You can write your email address in your email but you have to disguise it somewhat (for example, say something like "you can write to me at jdubinva at yahoo"). Don't use the @ sign or .com.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:42pm

Thanks for your thougthful replies.

My Match name is jdubinrva

I'll thicken up my skin and would love some advice.

John

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Registered: 04-25-2003
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:53pm
I looked at your profile and I think it's very nice. The only thing that might give some pause is the skinny-dipping comment. While I completely get it, it might put others off. I would do what others have advised and put in other contact info and you should be all set.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 5:05pm

Hi, it's a little generic but the only thing I see in it that *might* be turning people off is the reference to skinny-dipping. I understand that you're kind of poking fun at that part of match, but people might not get that (of course, that begs the question of whether you'd want to *date* anyone who didn't ;-)). Your picture (the one I can see at least) is just fine. Are there any women in the other pics?

Maybe punch your profile up with a few more specifics but otherwise it looks good. You'll just have to keep sending out emails until you connect with a couple women who are right for you.

I loved A Walk in the Woods, btw. Have you read any of Bryson's other books?

Sheri

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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 5:12pm

Thanks for the feedback...I've never included an email - I've just assumed people were paying members. Maybe a big mistake on my part.

Sheri - it was a great book. Reading in bed and laughing out loud are almost as good as the alternative! I've also read I'm a Stranger Here Myself, which I found pretty funny. Any recommendations?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:51pm

So what is up with this?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 10:59pm

Did you write out the email address without using the usual email symbols such as @ and .com? Match does strip them out if the other person isn't a subscriber. So it's possible that all the guys who wrote to you are subscribers and that's why they could see the email address and this guy couldn't.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: jdubinva
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:03pm

Hmmm, I didn't know they stripped them out if the person wasn't a subscriber.

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