Out on a limb

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Out on a limb
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 3:53am

I've sworn off online dating. I think. I don't know. I deleted my yahoo personals profile, but I still have my myspace page. I've sort of created a fanbase with my blogs and so that is my main purpose now for keeping the page, but I'm keeping my options open as far as dating goes. So although I'm sort of on the fence, I still want my page to represent me in the most accurate light...sooo.....I added a short 10 sec video of myself saying high, just to make myself more 3 dimensional. I could really use some opinions on it. Does it add to or detract from my profile? I think I seem ditzy and immature in the video, but I'm my own worst critic. Would anyone mind taking a peek and letting me know...honestly...what you think? I can always remove it or redo it, but I don't want to keep it up there if it makes me look like a ditzy, immature myspace freak.

Thanks you guys are the best!!!




Edited 1/7/2007 3:31 pm ET by writerchick007

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 8:13am
YOU ARE SO CUTE!!! Ah-to be young again!! I am reading Dr. Phil's Love Smart and alot of things I read say : Confidence! My two cents are not to be stiff, but alittle less movement. I wish I had a younger brother to fix you up with!!
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:31am
Thanks so much! I was afraid that there was too much movement, but those are my true mannerisms. I'm really bubbly and animated...ick, I'm a total dork. No wonder I'm single :P I'll redo it and try to be more still. Thanks!
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Registered: 12-15-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 12:53pm

I found your video to be a bit contrived and insincere. It gives me the impression you are trying too hard and making all the stereotypical moves that you think men want....e.g. flipping of the hair.

You are a beautiful woman and you just come off completely fake. With all the information you provide including the blogs there is very little mystery about who you really are. Don't give yourself away to complete strangers. Leave something for the special person you meet.

Tone it down a bit and just be yourself.

Reese

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 1:37pm

I don't think you should put up the 'its me' video. Wouldn't you want to act personal like that towards the right guy not just any guy who comes along to look at the video? I would never act that flirty to just any guy. I reserve that kind of behavior for one man who deserves to see me like that. Anyway, that's just me. If you want to do an 'its me video' I think you should make it more

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 3:26pm

yeah, that was me, but I was more worried that my old screen name would scream at who I really was. So maybe someone I know or met online might be browsing, see my screen name and then read my post. I don't think they'd actually be looking for me, so I feel save hiding that info in my post. Besides, I just don't care that much anymore now that I'm not in any real contact with anyone (besides the guy from England, but that's not going to ever go anywhere.)

Anyway, thanks for the comments. I am flirty. Everthing in that video is exactly how I act in real life. And yes, I can be ditzy and alot of times people are suprised to learn that I actually have some intelligence. I don't play games or try to be someone I'm not in order to lure a man. I see nothing wrong with being who I am. Again, I guess that explains why I'm single. I'm removing the video...thanks so much to all for your comments. That's just what I needed to know.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 3:38pm

Way kewl MySpace site. I think your video is very adorable. I always thing giving more information (either video, audio, pictures, writing) makes a person more "real." I have been surprised to have actually talked to or met the person from online because I had limited data from her pictures and writing.

I have a MySpace blog as well. www.myspace.com/joyouspirit. I have met four great women on MySpace which are now friends of mine. I also met three from Friendster (www.friendster).

I see this a vehicle as a way of people getting to know me and me finding a relationship either romantic or friendship with women.

I do an occasional blog to process what is going on with myself and to document it.

Thanks for sharing.

Mark

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 3:59pm

Thanks mark! I love your site too! I agree that with the more information you give the more real you seem, and what is wrong with that??? I think that is one of the problems with online dating. You are given a snapshot of a person in two dimensional form, so there is certain level of distance that takes away the whole point of dating. The point of dating is to put your true self out there and see if there is someone who connects with who you are. Now with online dating there are rules and games and all this is tolerated, and even accepted as a way of life... ugh...it irritates me. So I'm critisized for putting my true self on the web. But I think its far better than leaving something for them to come back for - to me that's playing games and I don't have the time or energy for it. This is who I am. Either you like me or you don't.

I've also met some real friends on myspace, and I've run into a few friends from high school on the site. It isn't a bad way to meet people, but some people misuse it.

By the way, I loved your blogs too...you seem very positive. I admire the way you can keep your chin lifted no matter what life throws at you. Very inspiring :)

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 4:09pm

It's clear you are

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 4:18pm
You make a good point...I hadn't thought of it that way. I recorded a few different videos but chose this one because this is how I would act if you were to meet me in person. "Hi, this is me, nice to meet you" sort of thing (and I'm an obsessive hair flipper....don't know why). It is who I am on the surface. But in an online venue, especially myspace, I can see where it might be taken differently. None the less I removed the video.
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 4:31pm

By the way, your kids are darling. I love the

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