Out of my League??
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| Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:46am |
Checking out Yahoo Personals one day, I sent a real cute guy (42, divorced, one child (22 yo) a "wow, oh wow, wowie" flirt. Basically he was the epitome of "fine" based upon his physical attributes in the photos. Sent the flirt and a week later he responded with the flirt -- "I really liked your message, thanks!". Well since I was a paid member I responded with, "well if you are interested in talking, write me at blah, blah, blah." Well 2 weeks later he sent me an email stating that he was out of town and if we could talk via phone and listed his phone number. Mind you, I totally forgot about him and I just sent him the flirt because he was very good looking and then sent the email pushing my luck! :)
Well I called and we have been talking for the past 3 weeks. Mind you, I didn't follow the rules about setting up the meet and greet cause.....I ain't his type and have been talking and meeting others (ones I fit with their criterias). Regardless, we have good conversations and he is extremely funny. Well this Sunday he called and he says, "well when are we going to meet?" and it kind of took me by surprise, and I responded with "oh, we are supposed to meet, I'm sorry but I didn't think we would meet, I'm not your type." In my mind, I was having fun and not taking this seriously. Regardless, he did ask me about "not his type" and I told him that your profile states body type slim, fit or athletic, and I fit more into the "thick, few extra pounds" category. He laughed and commented that he has been enjoying our conversation and would really like to meet. We set something up for this past Sunday, but I called to reschedule -- actually could have met him but basically got scared.
This is bothering me, and I'm going to meet him soon -- no sense in dragging out the inevitable. I know I'm not just looking for a pen pal, and I guess I just took my infactuation to a level I didn't want to venture into -- fear of rejection!!!
Any thoughts??? Anyone ever do this?? See what I have started!!! Ugh!!!

I've posted this on the other board as well, so in case you are reading here first:
Hi Stephanie,
I say GO FOR IT! In fact you have inspired me. Just this morning I got my 12 new matches and there was this totally hot guy...I was like YOWZA! and my first thought was of this post. There's this part of me who thinks he's out of my league, but what the heck...I'm gonna send him the same flirt you sent yours;) Thanks!
I only just started initiating contact over the last month and you made me see the need to re-evaluate my e-mail approach. Mine have been a bit too dry. I'm gonna try the fun flirt. Send it and then forget about it. Who knows...
As for your pending meet...just go and be your fabulous self.
Good Luck,
Chele
Why would you label him "out of your league"? Where does your league end and his begins or vice versa? Your comment to him was based out of fear..which you admit to...but what it also does is puts that thought in his head. What would have happened if you never felt he was out of your league (which he isn't....) and you showed up to meet him like dynomite? Walk in with your head held high and your few extra pounds accentuated? You would knock him on his a**. But that's scary too.
I plead that you begin to feel better about yourself to do this on-line dating stuff. You are an amazing woman with loads to offer ANYONE.....leagues are for snobs.
Take the world by storm and go for it!! (Throw up later.....hehehehe)
Fluffy
I just sent the Wow! flirt...3 times! I typed Wow! into the subject box and tried to move down to the message box and some computer demon sent it before I was done. Then I did it again! sheesh!
I have to be careful how I word my messages! (smile) Out of my league was only from the standpoint that I didn't read his profile and contacted him on appearances alone. Whew, thank God he isn't a smoker!
Regardless, I know people put preferences becuase that's what they are - preferences. Most reasonable people (more the minority, NOT the majority) will judge on more than your weight or age.
It's hard enough getting a connection in OLD, that it's just not common practice for me to spend my time online seeking men who specify certain criteria I don't meet. IRL, that's another story!! (smile)
Hi,
Oh, I definitely feel your pain! I know cause I am trying to lose some weight here. I would meet him. They say some men who don't even say they like some curves secretly do...not sure. Wish some men would chime in on this....really. I have recently read that some men really do like a thicker, curvier lady but have problems with other males kidding them or something strange like that....Maybe something carried over from junior high. Good luck! I hope you meet him and it goes well!
Sara
That is too funny! LOL! ;)
Sara
Girl, go for it!!!
You never know, it might turn into something.
At the very least you can hang out with some eye candy for a few hours.
Don't you have a picture posted so he knows EXACTLY what you look like and whether you're his "type"?
It's one of the basic tenets of OLD; that way there are no surprises.