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overnight stay question
| Thu, 08-18-2005 - 3:10pm |
Next weekend my guy is taking my me and my son to Six Flags amusement park on Saturday. It's close to 2 hrs away from me and my guy has offered that we stay at his place Friday night and all drive together on Saturday morning. (he's 3 hrs away but actually closer to the park). My son is 9. How would you feel about having your child sleep over - on the couch - at your guys place?? They have met and they get along great. I just wonder how he'd feel knowing that mommy is sleeping in the same bed as the new guy!! I'm not sure what to do...

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I was 10 when my mom had her bf stay over
When I have dated men with kids, I won't spend the night with them when they have their kids. I just think it sends the wrong message. I wouldn't do so unless we were engaged.
If you're going to do this, IMO the guy should be on the couch and you and your son have the bed.
Sheri
As you probably predicted you are getting all kinds of responses lol.
If i am keeping up properly you guys are exclusive...my dd (six) has done just what you have suggested. Along with my dog LOL. Yes, he and i slept in bed. Yes, she slept on the couch. The dog slept on her head.
She is not traumatized upset or scarred. If your son likes him he'll be fine with it, if he doesn't not.
i know alot of women say you need to treat your kids like they'll break in two but i have always believed if you are honest with them and talk to them that is the key. Not who sleeps where or with what on. There's no magic solution: if you date six months then you can be completely open. Trust your son and trust your man but most importantly trust yourself.
If your intuition says your son will be fine he will be. Explain that when grownups are dating they like to sleep in the same bed.
It's really nothing to be that worried over~if your son is basically happy, healthy and well adjusted this will not send him running to the shrink.
best of luck :)
jen
Edited 8/19/2005 5:28 am ET ET by alljackedup
Yes, we are exclusive. I talked with my son this morning and asked him what he thought. He basically said "okay I'll sleep on the couch". Then I joked about kicking the guy out of his big bed and making him sleep on the couch and we take the bed, he laughed and said "can we do that!!"...so I think whatever happens he'll be fine with it.
thanks for all of the thoughts.....
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