Panic, week 2

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Panic, week 2
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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 6:35pm
OK. I briefed everyone on my great first date a week ago. Then he went oot for a week. Wasn't expecting him back until this evening. Last night I get a message from him, he is in Atlanta catching his connecting flight (came home a day earlier than I expected). Said he had a wonderful week, wanted to catch up, see if we could maybe do drinks or a movie today (sunday). Well, I had plans to go to the beach this am. I kept my plans, went to the beach, left him a message saying I am at the beach, will be home this evening, give me a call...now its nearly 6 pm and I have heard nothing. Just tried calling him again and got the answering machine.

Several issues: the rational part of me is saying hey, he just got back from OOT, he probably has a lot of errand running, laundry, etc. to do...and I left him a message to call, he'll call. YET, the irrational part of me is like yikes, why hasn't he called? And did I do the wrong things by keeping my plans? I have kind of made a pact w/ myself to not allow guys I date to get me in a drop everything situation in order to be w/ them. This guy, whom I really like, has a way of wanting me to do something w/ him immediately, rather than planning. Of course I check the online dating site, and he has been on in the last 24 hours. So now I have all kinds of craziness running through my head.

Yes girls, there are more than 1 fish in the sea, yes, I have others in the queue in case this doesn't work out, but what should I do here? I feel that the best approach is to just sit back and let him return my call...what do you think?

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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 7:49pm
I think you did exactly the right thing; you didn't have firm plans with him for tonight so it would have been silly to cancel your plans for the day.

If he's interested, he'll return your call. Chill ;-)!!! (I know it's easier said than done though!). Calling again would not be a good idea.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-05-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 9:01pm
You absolutely did the right thing. Breaking your plans to meet with him - now that would have been a mistake.

Since you did tell him that you had plans for today he probably made plans of his own. Just chill for now. It's too soon to start worrying.

jhoover21.

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Mon, 08-18-2003 - 9:06am
I don't accept weekend dates with a new guy where he asks after Wednesday. I would have said - thaks so much for the invitation but I'm busy tomorrow - can we make it another night? I understand the anxiety but you need to force yourself to relax and get distracted - he will call if he is interested and if he is lukewarm - which sometimes these last minute guys are - you don't need that.
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Mon, 08-18-2003 - 9:09am
Well, personally I would wait it out and in the mean time go out, do some things with other people and not put all my eggs in one basket just yet. If the man said he would call, then he will call. If he nevers calls, you will have already moved on and had things going on not let it bother you so much. SO, do not worry about it and let him call you. I know it is tough, cause you like him and all that jazz, but he could be just really busy and you certainly do not want to sit and pine after a man like this. Go out, have fun and do not worry about him right now. He will call in time.

Gail:)

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Mon, 08-18-2003 - 9:25am
Thanks everybody! I did the right thing-I didn't call, did some work, and called some friends that I hadn't talked to in a while, watched sex in the city....about 9:45, a call. I was asleep, didnt answer,it was him. Says he had forgotten his cell phone in his car, wants to set something up for Mon/Tues/Wed...

It was hard, but worth it. THanks for your support!