Is this pathetic?

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Is this pathetic?
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 7:06am

I'm awake way too early for my liking this Sunday morning and am obviously doing too much thinking, but I have noticed something I would like some feed back on.
I have been recieving a lot of emails from the same people on a couple of OLD sites. One guy emailed me three different times within two hours, and I had never once emailed with him at all. Another guy emailed me once, and I responded briefly (kind of wasn't very interested but was feeling like maybe I should go out on a limb), and he has now emailed me three more times without me responding to him at all.

Bottom line is, this happens a lot, and it really seems to bother me when I see more than one email from a man whom I've never even cooresponded with once. It gives off the vibe that these guys are desperate, or that they would be overly needy and clingy in a relationship.

Am I wrong in thinking that unless I respond to someone after two emails, they should get the point and stop emailing? I don't respond to every email I get, especially when I specify in my profile that I am only looking for a specific race, or other "statistics" in a man, and these guys don't fall into those categories. Or if it's obvious they haven't read my profile I don't respond, or if it's evident that they didn't put a whole lot of thought or effort into their email. (Right, I don't respond to a lot!) Call me rude, but I make it pretty clear in my profile what I'm looking for, and if a guy thinks he is going to change that, he's wrong.

Any thoughts on this one?

Thanks!
M


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Registered: 02-11-2006
In reply to: megdf
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 9:18am

Hi M,

There could be reasons other than the person being desperate that causes them to email you without you responding back. Maybe thier membership is ending or maybe they really liked your profile---men can be quite persistent when they like a girl (something I try to remember while waiting for a call by the ones I like--lol)

I can definately understand that receiving email after email from guys you aren't interested in can be fustrating and annoying. I'm not sure what you can do about it other than responding back saying you aren't interested or blocking the person.

Don't get yourself upset about it--its not worth it--and afterall these are just guys that want to take you out.

Good Luck and Happy Dating

Jennifer

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: megdf
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 10:19am
No, I'm with you on this one.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: megdf
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 10:41am

I am with you on this one as well.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: megdf
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 9:01am

Some of these guys are just playing the "numbers" game and you may be right they may be overly clingly or needy. I just tend to ignore them!

No matter what you write in their profile, you can't change their behavior. Their method is to bombard you and hopefully get you to respond.

I'm thinking you may need a break from OLD. (smile)

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: megdf
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 9:06am
One thing I wonder sometimes is if they're writing to me again after I've changed my lead photo - maybe they don't realize I'm the same person they already wrote to.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
In reply to: megdf
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 12:25pm
This bugs me too. I usually just block them. There was this guy on match who was way too persistent so I blocked him. I was new to OLD then so it kinda creeped me out; he seemed stalkerish. Then, a month ago I joined yahoo and this same guy started sending email after email, almost a year after I blocked him on match! I blocked him on yahoo, but I was sorely tempted to send him an email first: "Aren't there any other single women in Northern Virginia for you to bother?" I have a feeling he's one of those shotgunning types and I'm probably NOT the only single woman in Northern VA who gets his attentions.