Persistent e-mailers

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2003
Persistent e-mailers
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:51pm
Maybe I'm wrong in doing this but I don't generally e-mail back men whom I don't find fit my criteria. I just delete the e-mails and go on. But I have this handful of men who just keep sending e-mails. I guess eventually they'll go away, but this one sent me an e-mail just now that read: "do you ever write anybody back?" I was just wondering if anyone gets someone who won't go away, who just keeps contacting and contacting, and what they do about it...
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:54pm

B-L-O-C-K

1. Do not respond.
2. Do not acknowledge
3. Do not pass Go
4. Do not collect $200

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:55pm

In the past I’ve had that. Block him if you’re on match or write him and say we’re not a match and then block him as he’ll write back asking why – they always do!


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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:59pm
Only once did I have someone write back to ask why I hadn't responded to him. So I wrote back the following message: "Sorry. I don't feel that we're a match." And then I blocked him. End of story.

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2004
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 7:28pm

It is amazing to me how many men will ask you WHY you think you're not a match... I can't even comprehend replying to someone who sent me a pop-up "not interested" response with WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?!!

Before I knew you could block someone, I actually answered a guy who begged me to tell him why. He had no photo, and most of his questionnaire responses were blank. The paragraph he wrote about himself was full of typos and terrible grammar. I told him that it appeared that he might be married (I DIDN'T say "stupid..") because he did not post a photo.

He wrote back saying that his boss had suggested that if they wanted to do OLD they should NOT post a photo since it might be deemed unprofessional if someone saw them online. Whatever...

Thank you, lg, for pointing out the BLOCK option.

Tracy

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 8:39pm

You just have to block those kind of guys - they just don't get it! If you send them a "No thank you we aren't a good match" email, it just opens the doors for them to ask you more questions - like why you don't match - they think they have finally gotten through to you - it's the thing of negative or positive attention, it doesn't matter with them! Any attention is attention! Just block them and forget about them!

Sunshine

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2003
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 8:56pm

You can tell them you've met someone and you are seeing where it goes, then block him.

Or just let him know you are not interested at this time and then block him...

But other than that, don't respond at all, unless you are wanting someone to email/chat with... :)

I don't do that, if I email a woman and she lets me know she is not interested, I don't stick around, I don't try to find out why... I've got better things to do with my time than annoy someone else by pretty much "begging" for an answer. It doesn't do me any good and it certainly doesn't do you any good.

So just block them, list their emails as spam, whatever... don't pay attention to them, that is what someone like that wants... even if it is bad attention.

Bryan

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 4:02pm

I don't advise option #1 if you are planning on staying active on the site even if you DO block them. Then it makes you a liar and they have more reason to curse you or reappear somehow again later down the line. Back in my early days of mistakes I did that and had a guy that popped up 3 months later and told me that he'd been looking at my profile a lot and would I like to go to lunch. Ummm, no. But it was my fault for 1) telling the white lie 2) leaving my profile up and 3) not blocking.

But as to the original question - I have this happen a lot and the only solution is to block, block, block! Usually I won't answer the first email of a guy that I am not interested in, but if they send another email, I send an email saying we are not a match. A couple of times I either haven't had a chance to block or forgot to and got yet another reply back to the "thanks but no thanks" email asking why or I had one guy that I told him that "I didn't think that we were what the other was looking for" and he asked me what I was looking for that he didn't have. I was feeling in a particularly snotty mood that day so I gave him a list and then blocked him.

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