Pertinent article re: disappoinment

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
Pertinent article re: disappoinment
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:26am

Hi All...Found this in my in box this morning and thought I'd share. I think it relates to the very early stages of a r'ship, as well as the later ones.

http://www.ediets.com/news/article.cfm?cmi=1218987&cid=7&code=24044

I think the most significant qoute from this article is, "None of us can control another person -- not even “the one.” He will come and go as he pleases."

A good thougth to keep in mind when feeling disappointed with OLD life! :O

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 10:54am

Thanks for posting this - when a relationship ends there is nothing you can really do but accept it. You can't change or control it, you'll surive and life goes on. However you can control how you left it affect you. I know people who dwell for months and months over relationships and although I agree its healthy to vent and be upset for a little bit there comes a time where you need to take that control back instead of letting it control and dictate your own life and happiness.

 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 1:58pm

Hi Luv and SP,

Great article Luv, thanks for posting it. I think the key is that *we* control our own happiness (and sadness at a breakup) and can't let our life be ruled by having love or attention from a partner.

I know my last breakup was hard on me and I felt alot of sadness, but the more I thought about it, he wouldn't have really been right for me for life anyway! It was the hurt and sadness of the parting that got to me. I wasn't looking forward to getting out there and doing the dating thing all over again! But why stay with someone when you know it isn't completely right.

I have a tendency to stick with things and make them right, so it was difficult at first for me to let go and admit it wasn't right, but I finally did that after we got back together and nothing had really changed. It takes two for adjusting and compromising in a relationship for it to work and he wanted it all on his terms. I knew from that point that he wasn't right for me or he'd want to compromise, so I ended it. Yes I was disappointed that it didn't work, but you gotta move on... and life is getting better day by day.

Sunshine