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| Fri, 01-06-2006 - 10:00am |
Thanks ya'll again. As it happened, it wasn't anything to get excited over. Nothing wrong with him and I suppose if he asked I would go out again but if he didn't call again, I also wouldn't be at all upset either. Kind of a take it or leave it thing. Since he didn't ask and we ended the meet with more of a "thanks it was nice to meet you", I'm thinking he either could sense that I wasn't feeling much spark and/or felt the same way.
Sigh... back to the drawing board. Why is it so hard to find one decent guy that wants a relationship that I have some moderate spark/attraction to? I don't think I am asking too much, I am just asking to feel SOMETHING (other than revulsion like with toenail guy) akin to a spark when I meet someone. I know things can build over time, but I think there has to be some kind of chemistry off the bat for things to build over time.
Oh well. It might be time for another break. We'll see. The email guy emailed me back over the site. I'm too embarrased from the network 3 email fiasco to look at it now.

Your second paragraph pretty much sums up how I feel about the whole process. I was taking an "official" break from OLD when I saw that I had gotten a message from someone on Match.com. I was no longer a paying member. So, I signed back up for their 7 day or 10 day trial deal so I could see who had messaged me. It was a guy whose profile I had briefly looked at before but had never contacted. His e-mail sounded interested and sincere. I replied back and we exchanged several e-mails and then started the instant msg. thing. We have also talked on the phone a few times.
My concern about this one is this--he works for a trucking line and is on the road a lot. He has said he wants to meet me, and we have "tentatively" set up two different dates that might work, but neither panned out due to him being on the road. He knows within 24 hrs. when he has to go on a trip. He also said he planned to not take as many of the jobs this coming year and said he would make time for me. However, we had talked online day before yesterday and said he would talk to me last night online. He never was online though; left him a message and hoped he would call, but he didn't. It's possible that his job has prevented him from contacting me (takes his laptop with him though), so I don't know what to think really. At this point, I'm waiting for him to contact me. But, I don't like this waiting game with men and really do believe that it is a numbers game. However, you'd think that eventually my number would be lucky for a change. I saw that I have another "message" on Match.com although I have since cancelled. Toying if I should re-subscribe or just let things coast for a while.
Although I did want to meet this trucker guy, I am not real happy with the sporadic contact. That seems to be the norm for so many guys online anymore. :0
Funny, about a month ago I met a guy out and at the end he said "keep in touch" I figured that was the "kiss of death"....he callled me the next day and wanted to know if I was interested as I was a "hard read" he said........
Sometimes if they say "nice meeting you" or "keep in touch" doesn't mean you won't hear from them again as an FYI.
However, with that said, yes it is RARE to meet someone with sparks. It takes time. You may meet someone next week or this spring but it sounds like you're taking the right approach - if someone peeks your interest you meet them out and if not you're living your own life - that is all you can do.
Cheers,
SP