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| Tue, 11-01-2005 - 10:15am |
The guy I've been seeing for six months just told me he wants to take a break. He even gave a time frame: until after Thanksgiving, at least. I thought things were fine, he gave me a great birthday gift a couple weeks ago ($100 gift certificate to a day spa) but I know he's very much a loner (at least he didn't tell him he "needed space", lol). I'm a loner too; it's one reason I thought we were a great pair; we both "get" the need for alone time. He says he needs to spend more time by himself. Hmmm...wonder if I'll see his profile on match shortly (note to self: stop being so cynical :)
We're both in our 40s and this is a very difficult age to date, I think. I've gotten used to the idea of dealing with baggage (ex-wives and kids) but I'm also starting to think a lot of single people over 40 are a little broken as well, maybe just from years of dating and plain ole living.
Oh, well. I'm bummed, but I know I'll survive. I'm not quite ready to reactivate my match profile (I did a search and couldn't believe all the familiar faces. As Yogi Berra would say, it's like deja vu all over again.)

Carrie, I'm sorry to hear that. Did you agree to the break? Why or why not? I wouldn't be comfortable with that, personally...if there are issues, you work through them together, IMO, you don't "take a break".
I think your theory about people in our age group has a lot of truth to it, although I see a lot more "broken" men than women...IMO it's because women are (as a general rule) more comfortable with seeking therapy and "fixing" things than men are.
Sheri
Oh, Carol, I'm sorry to hear that. What's going on with all the break-ups around here? I know you won't wait around for him, but what are you going to do if he comes back around in a few weeks? Take some time for yourself, and treat yourself to that wonderful day at the spa (with no thoughts of him :)) Good luck!
Holly
Thanks for the nice replies. To answer Sheri's question, I'm not as broken up about this as I would've expected. Admittedly I'm still processing this (it just happened yesterday) but I'm a lot less upset than I was last year at this time when that dude ghosted on me after a month of dating.
I'm not sure if I would get back together with him, assuming he comes back. I think I need a break as well. Not just from him, but from dating in general.
Hi Carol-
Very sorry to hear this.
CL-Truewild1969
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>>I'm not as broken up about this as I would've expected.
Me neither.