Phone Calls

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Registered: 10-11-2004
Phone Calls
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 12:08pm
What is the typical response time for guys to call after they ask for your phone number? This one guy that I met on line and I have emailed a few times and then he asked for my phone number, but it's been three days and I haven't heard from him. I know that's not a lot of time that has passed, and he could be busy or whatever. But if he's interested, don't you think he would have called by now?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 12:41pm

It's hard sitting on your hands waiting for them to call! But I try to convince myself that even if I've given a guy my number, he probably won't call. Helps keep my expectations more realistic. Also, it's important to keep in touch with several guys so you're not sitting around waiting on this ONE.

Finally, if a guy I've given my number to waits more than 3-4 days to call, I next him. I have a lot going on in my life too but it takes only a few minutes to make a phone call. I recently had a guy wait a week to call - no explanation, just a "sorry for the delay". It went to VM and I never called him back. A week is too long IMO - if he can't make time for a phone call now, why should I have any expectations for it getting better?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 2:01pm

Did you suggest a couple good times to call? I find that helps keep the ball rolling so you might want to do that in the future.

It's really hard to say...yeah, if he were really interested in moving things forward he'd probably have called by now. But that's not 100% universally true so I wouldn't be surprised if you still do hear from him. What helps me is to think, after each email/phone call/date/whatever, that that's it and I probably won't hear from him again...I do my best to just let it go and if he does contact me again great, if not, oh well.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-13-2005
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 10:49pm

When I gave my phone number to my now boyfriend, he only waited a couple of hours, if that before he called me. I am not sure what typical response time would be.

Cheryl

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:01pm

I dont agree with Vexer on this one,

why would he make any time for someone he's never met. Your relation grows with time and a guy you met today should hold you dearer as time goes by. I dont trust guys who make you their priority from Day 1 these are usually fake and/or insecure. (yeah and sex is enough to get them to show their real personality)
So yeah it is very acceptable for him to have you as priority 100 when he is just getting to know you but once you are together this is when you should expect to be Il Numero UNO!

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Registered: 10-11-2004
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 10:05am
He called last night, so like usual, I got ahead of myself. Thanks for your responses!
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 2:13pm

I'm not saying he has to make me a priority. But he's obviously been making some time for me with email so why should that change with the phone? So what if he's never met me? If a guy asks for my number, I give it to him, I think it's RESPECTFUL to call within a couple or three days. You wouldn't treat a stranger like that if they'd given you their number for a business reason, right? If they call you about something, you would try to be considerate and call them back within a few days if not the same/next day. If a guy can't offer common courtesy at this stage of the game, what can I expect later on?

BTW - glad he called to the OP! :-)

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