Phone chemistry, but not IRL?
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Phone chemistry, but not IRL?
| Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:35am |
Hi all,
I'm new to this board, but not iVillage. I'm also new to OLD. (Took me reading a few posts to figure out that term! :))
Based on your experience, is it a normal occurrence great chemistry over the phone and be able to talk like old friends with a man and then meet and have no chemistry? What has your experience been?
Thanks for your feedback.

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Sheri, Amjay, Vexer... always the sages on this board.
I'd also add a little caution in case you hadn't seen it in the other posts on here; the man who is interested in an LDR (and who is especially volunteering to come to YOUR state) may be married or otherwise involved. It's SAFE to come to YOUR area where no one knows him...
Just another reason to keep your options open locally.
Tracy
Hi and thanks for your response.
I'm curious--before you met, had you asked what he looked like, expectations, etc?
And cheers on the wine! I LOVE Santa Margharita too. A bit on the expensive side down here, but boy is it worth it!
Hi Tracy,
Thank you. Definitely will be cautious--just so you know, he did offer his state up as well. Told me he'd love to show me around, but I felt that it was better we meet in the middle. Optimistically cautious here! :)
It's very common.
Its happened to me twice - I have amazing chemistry on the phone over several conversations - meet them in person and zippo - none at all - not anything really wrong with them either but I felt I was sitting with a brother or some other similar type of male that you would never have an ounce of chemistry with but yet still get along well with them.
mom of 2
It is pretty expensive but worth it and I like it for special occasions.
Yes, I knew what he looked like - he had pics up and so did I. Expectations were just to meet and see if the chemistry moved off the phone. So often it doesn't I have learned since. I shouldn't have even started corresponding with the guy - not my type at all. Perfectly nice guy and would make a great catch for someone. I just can't imagine gardening on a Sunday when I could be at a biker rally, fishing, camping, or just ridin'.
But I'm not the norm on here. Most gals on here would never go for the guys I'm into...lol. I have been where you are and if I can help, I'm happy to.
KITB
I can understand the biker thing... my brother still goes to Sturgis. Not a huge 'biker' per se anymore but has his two Harleys, one homegrown. :)
Man I hope this guy doesn't turn out to be a dud. I've met other guys from the online world and they did, but there was always a nagging feeling that something wasn't right. I'm not getting that with this one. Plus, I never really have been a phone person and our conversations are not what I'm used to.
I'll keep everyone's advice in mind though. I'm going to see if we can move the meet date up so we can get it out of the way sooner rather than later.
Thanks for your advice. (Now I understand your nick! :) )
Hi Mof2,
(I was going to say hi mother, but it doesn't sound right! hehe) If you don't mind me poking for more info, how long were your phone conversations? Had you exchanged pics, etc.? Like I told KITB, I'm not that big into the phone so this is something different for me. I have met a few other guys online (though I still consider myself a newbie) and our phone convos were ok but I had a feeling something wasn't right.
Guess I'm just trying to gather as much info. Thank you so much for sharing!
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