Phone question

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Registered: 01-16-2006
Phone question
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 8:13am


Ok, here's the scoop....

Since posting my profile on PerfectMatch.com, I have sent out several 'icebreakers' and received a few myself (ewww..)EXCEPT this one who sent one to me on Monday. He seems nice, hardworking (plumber), and family oriented.

In e-mails I've read a couple things that I don't feel right about, and want to swing them by everyone to get your take on it. This is what he wrote to me last night...

(to preface this.. I asked him the question of why he prefers to date women with children)

"well i would like to become part of a family, is the reason why, i don't really want to have a child of my own, i don't really know why, but i'm a step dad now and i like it, my ex-wife has a 19 yearold daughter, we talk every now and then. she pretty busy with college, anyway you sound like a terrific person, if i gave you my # would you call me? i think we could get to know each other a little better on the phone, M

I've always felt uncomfortable with calling so early in the 'meeting' process. Does what he writes send any red flags to anyone?

OK, well while writing this post, I went back to check one of the other statements he made in his profile, and his profile is now 'hidden'.Hmmmm.. ok that's odd. Why would he hide his profile?

Well, I think I will play it really cool with this one. It's just not jiving for me.
BUT please let me know your thoughts as well...

Thanks
Lisa

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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:58am
Go with your gut! I feel the same as you!
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:10am

Yeah.. it's kinda odd huh?
I'm getting so discouraged.. ugh....every guy that sends me an ice breaker is like in his 50's and just ..well.. not my type.. ugh.

thanks for your imput!

Lisa

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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:13am

OLD is a numbers game... try not to get discouraged and stick with it. Sometimes it just takes time.


Kerry


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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:35am

I agree, go with your gut. He just sounds kind of creepy. "i don't know why..."


I was talking to this one guy recently who prefers single moms and had some very good reasons... for example he says, the qualities it takes to raise a child on our own, patience, maturity, responsibility, organization, creative problem solving, endless amounts of love and understanding. Plus, this guy doesn't want any 'more' kids, he has a son who is grown, and doesn't want any more because "babies are messy and

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Registered: 01-16-2006
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:48am

Talked a good game he DID!

Yeah, the more I think about it, the more I feel comfortable not going to the next level...
We'll see how this one plays out...

At least your guy had an explanation behind it.. oh well..

Onward!....lol

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 10:05am
While I think the kids thing does border on creepy, the moving to the phone quickly IMO is not a big deal. Email is not a good way to get to know someone IMO and "hides" a lot of things. In my experience, the longer I chat on email and even phone without meeting them, the more disappointed I am when we DO meet. So I don't think moving to the phone quickly is a problem. But if the kids thing gives you a bad vibe - go with it and don't meet him.

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