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| Sun, 01-01-2006 - 2:31pm |
I'm wondering what everyone's opinions are here and also, what you describe yourself as...
On the sites, when you see people who list themselves as having a few extra pounds, being large or being thick, what are the differences to you? How do you list yourself?

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I've noticed that women, in general, tend to categorize themselves as a body type one larger than they actually are. For example, I think of myself as "a few extra pounds" or "curvy" while the guys here at work say they consider me average. Still, I have a tummy & cottage cheese in the thighs, so I view myself a little more harshly.
I think guys envision women a size SMALLER. For example, when a woman describes herself as average, he's thinking size 6 or something (even though the average size for women is a 12 or 14 I think). Basically, men have no clue about women's sizes. LOL! Always exceptions, of course.
I want to lose 20-30 pounds...my friends say "where?" I guess I hide it well.
Well, I've seen plenty of ads where the guy classifies himself as average or athletic & he's king-sized, which always makes me wonder who he's kidding. LOL! These are the same guys who will only date slim/slender blonde women.
I think in general, though, that most guys classify themselves as pretty dead-on. Sometimes a guy without muscle will call himself athletic because he happens to play softball once per week. But, in general, I think guys look at themselves realistically. Again, there are always exceptions.
Of course, since I post a pic, I never respond to men without one just because it's fair.
I list myself as "average" since I need to lose some weight, but am not what you'd call obese looking either. To say I was "fit" would not be truthful either as I don't have what you'd call a lot of "muscle". I wear a size 10 or 12 pant/jeans, so when my 12's start getting tight, I start dieting again. I read somewhere that the "average" size woman in America is between a 14-16 in size, so that says that the average person is not what you'd call "thin". Most generally, the profiles I've seen where the guy indicates "a few extra pounds" is usually close to 100 pounds overweight. I don't mind if a guy is a bit heavy, but someone with a huge beer belly is not what I'd find attractive. I guess it depends on how the weight is distributed. Some men can be heavier and still be quite attractive--same goes for females. A lot of it has to do with how they dress and carry themselves.
My general belief is that there's nothing wrong with being overweight, but I do find it disturbing that some people (men and women) make no effort to try to lose the weight. I'd say a lot of men would not date a woman who is very overweight, and I personally would be turned off by a guy who was all stomach. The reality is (like it or not), if you are extremely overweight, your odds of finding someone who likes that body style is a lot smaller than if you were average size or maybe only a little overweight.
Edited 1/1/2006 3:17 pm ET by mitsy2
I have no idea what "thick" means in a body type...I've wondered about that for years ;-).
I classify myself as "a few extra pounds" because to me, "large" connotes a BBW...and I don't consider myself to be in that category (I'm a size 18). If and when I ever get back down to a 14, I will switch to "average".
Guys are all over the map. Some classify themselves as a few extra pounds because they have a little bit of a belly (what I would call average, especially for my age group), and others who are way more than a few extra pounds call themselves average. So I don't really go off the description, I go by the picture.
Sheri
Hi everybody!
Great OP cl-bklynchik! Not to steal it, but since I am European (came here in 1998), I have always wondered what I am considered here in the US (becasue European women, IMO, are obsessed with dieting and overall slim: even when I was weighing at 132lbs. 5'6 tall, I would be told in some stores: "we don't carry this style in your size": pants, specifically, forget it... -- the ones that would fit nicely, I mean.. ). Now (age 32) I weigh 160 lbs (16 lbs overwight I guess), size 10-12 (tops,louses, dresses) and 14 (pants) I have a small upperbody, nice (I flatter myself) waist, and "larger than life" :)) bottom part. So, what am I? A friend tried to talk me into putting "curvy", but I felt I don't have the boob size for that (36 B is what I am...), so I went for "ä few extra lbs". Am I selling myself short, or am I being honest?
While I am not really fit (I go to the gym, cardio, twice a week), I am healthy and generally active. I am an OK dresser, I guess (in the last month 4 guys complimented me on my fashion taste and style -- based on my photos). What do you think?
P.S> Again, I don't mean to steal the thread...
Thanks and Happy New Year!
Since I have some poundage to lose, I don't judge a guy too harshly unless he isn't honest about it. And, if he IS overweight, he has to be doing something about it like me. Otherwise it's more about chemistry than physical type for me.
I wouldn't be repulsed my a 6-pack, though, just for the record. It's just not a requirement or a guarantee of my attraction.
I put myself down as slim. I am 43 years old, weigh 125-130 lbs and usually wear a 6 in clothes. I suppose I could use fit since I do workout 3 times per week doing cardio and lifting weights.
I am not usually attracted to men that are slighter builds so I often skip by men that are slim. I generally find that men are less critical of themselves than women are. I rarely see a woman listing herself as attractive and yet most men will say they are handsome or attractive.
I think it is more important that a person has an up-to-date and clear photo than what they self-describe as since the viewer can then draw their own conclusion.
Everyone will have dif't answers; some guys say girls who say athletic and toned is a nice way of saying they aren't thin but I disagree. I'm 5'3" and 115 - I'm athletic and toned but I don't consider myself skinny, when I think of skinny I think of a waif I guess in today's world....skinny is a subjective word just like the terms they list on match. Just see a few photos and make sure they are recent, if you have a full length that will give u an idea of the person is being someone true to what they state in their profile.
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