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| Sun, 01-01-2006 - 2:31pm |
I'm wondering what everyone's opinions are here and also, what you describe yourself as...
On the sites, when you see people who list themselves as having a few extra pounds, being large or being thick, what are the differences to you? How do you list yourself?

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I've noticed a lot of guys will put in their date's preference: slim/slender, athletic, average then THICK. How do you go from dating thinner women & then really BIG women?
Sometimes I wonder if they meant to click "a few extra pounds" which you'd think would come next in the list, but it's actually "thick" that's next.
Scratching my head on those.
I see a few extra pounds are extremely overweight. I'm not sure why, because logically that doesn't make sense. I prefer guys to be more overweight than skinny, but I skip right over "few extra pounds". Thick, on the other hand, is a good thing for me.
As for myself, I usually put average. I'm a size 8 now, but not toned, so I don't think men would appreciate me calling myself anything but average. Oh, except the one guy I went out with who didn't want a second date because I was, in his words, fat. Go figure.
I listed myself as voluptuous because that's what I am ;). I never thought twice about it, but over Christmas I saw Must Love Dogs and John Cusack's character tells the woman that when women put voluptuous they really mean fat. Hmmmm.
Melanie
I live in the UK where the word thick has an entirely different connotation
Here it is used to add an extra dimension of insult to stupid.
And to rub it in its pronounced FICK
so no matter how I try not to, I find that description repulsive.
I was thinking the same thing myself. My mother is 5'8" and wears an 8 or 10 and I consider her slim. It seems to me that a 5'8" woman wearing a size 6 looks extremely thin whereas a 5'2" woman in a size 6 looks average. Proportion counts for a fair bit.
Hmmm, I guess that was a bit off topic.
I've written to Match asking them to add "Hot and Round" but they haven't replied yet. My theory is that men won't read anything past "hot" and I'll score some dates.
My view of myself has always been "a few extra pounds" but a male friend convinced me to change that to "average". Don't know if that's true, but it's something I liked to hear so I changed my listing.
Photos are essential - close up showing off your smile, full body shot (not too far away) and a candid. And would someone tell those gits to put a fricking shirt on? Ugh.
You have to remember though that beauty and weight is in the eye of the beholder. I have gone between a size 2, 4 and 6 – my perfect size is a size 4 (I’m like a 5 now; 5 lbs will be off me in about 4 weeks now that the holiday cookies aren’t being tossed around like it’s drinking water, LOL). But that’s me, not you. Some guys like thick women not just average or waif like.
If you look at the BMI calculator it gives you a huge range, I think for me I can weigh anywhere from 110 to 145 which is generous depending on bone structure and all that jazz......
Mind you, I have a sister that can’t gain weight for the life of her, she eats a BIGMAC and her stomach shrinks IN not OUT, beoch, ha! So not everyone has a problem, for me it’s just being fit. Trust me I eat what I want for the most part but really enjoy sushi and seafood which is pretty healthy and I’m athletic –so when I say I’m athletic that’s no bull, I hike whenever I can, run 6 or 7 miles on Saturday’s if it’s not raining and take occasional Brikam yoga classes (yoga in the heat). Some partners seek the same, AKA being athletic. It’s truly a lifestyle type of thing.....whereas some people hate working out and seek the same. I once talked to a guy on the phone and he said he’d never worked out a day in his life – kind of turned me off and I didn’t meet him out as that is a part of what I seek in a partner, he doesn’t have to be a fanatic but you get the gist....
Remember, you have one life and one body, treat it like your temple and just be healthy – it’s not what the scale says it’s how you feel overall that matters.
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