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Picture vs. Reality
| Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:27pm |
I just met someone from Match who doesn't look like his picture. The picture must be old and about 20 pounds ago. He also claimed to be "toned and athletic." NO WAY. I am getting frustrated with all this. Aren't there any honest people any more?????

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I'm beginning to wonder if it is lack of honesty or lack of objectivity about themselves. The guy I met the other day told me, the night before he met me, that he was lucky in that his hair had almost no gray in it. It is pepper-and-salt.
Since it makes no sense to lie about something like that when he knew I was going to see him the next day, I can only conclude that when he looks in the mirror he still thinks what he used to look like instead of what he actually looks like today.
That would explain all those pictures from youth ("But I haven't changed!") and the false claims to be "athletic and toned" ("I watch sports on tv, that makes me athletic, and I am just as toned as I was when I was nineteen even if I've gained a few pounds.").
Laughing is the only solution.
Since the 60% of the people in the U.S. are overweight with 30% obese, what is considered acceptable and average is changing. I realize that women who call themselves "average" are 10-15 lbs overweight in my eyes. The last woman who I had a relationship with called herself "athletic" in her profile and I thought her to be "average." She worked out regularly and is fairly toned but I would not have consider her body to be athletic.
So in most cases, (1) people's self perceptions are way off and (2) the categories of body types seemed to have shifted in what they mean to match the trend of obesity in America.
Mark
Hi Mark,
I totally agree. But I lift, run, take boxing class, work on my abs. I am represented by two model and talent agencies. My definition of athletic and toned is consonant with what should be the definition....
Bunny
The problem is, they're overweight "in your eyes". In the eyes of every chart and every physician, I'm perfectly normal. In the eyes of most men, I'm "obese" because I have hips and a butt. Am I fit? Yep. Run 2 miles every few days, all I have time for, and scuba dive on the weekends. Men really need to start being a little more accepting of different body types. I honestly thought we as a society had moved past thinking women need to be a size 2 to be beautiful.
*Here here!*
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