Picture vs. Reality

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Registered: 08-07-2005
Picture vs. Reality
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:27pm
I just met someone from Match who doesn't look like his picture. The picture must be old and about 20 pounds ago. He also claimed to be "toned and athletic." NO WAY. I am getting frustrated with all this. Aren't there any honest people any more?????
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:51am

A picture is worth more than a one or two word description of one's body type.

I actually consider myself an average or toned body type but people who know me consider me thin. I think I need to lose 15lb to consider myself that but interesting how we and others perceive each other and self.

Mark

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:10am
I agree...put down what you think you are, but ALWAYS put up a full body picture to remove all doubt in the other person's mind. That way they can never be disappointed or not know who they're meeting. I think we all know that guys will definitely look at all your pictures, not necessarily your profile.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:40am

That's one of my biggest pet peeves - guys who do not look like their pics.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 5:34pm

I am finding that the rule-of-thumb is that the woman is going to be older and fatter than her picture no matter what the age she is.

Stacey, you already know what *I* look like.. at least have my picture *grin*

Mark

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 5:38pm

I am glad I am not the only who has experienced this...I was not exaggerating when I said the guy looked TOTALLY different from his picture. Assuming that IS his picture, the man in it is very handsome. Unlike the person who met on Sunday....

Full body picture, close up of the face, honest reporting of height and weight, and pictures no more than a year old....what is so hard about that????

Bunny

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 5:55pm

Oh good grief no - I have almost hardly ever met a guy that DID look a lot like his picture.

heather 5-18-10
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:22pm

We all have our preferences and frame-of-reference. Since my frame-of-reference is different from most I re-adjust my expectations of how the other weighs when they state they are "average" in weight.

BTW I never correlated "beauty" with weight in my postings or I never said I do not accept women based on their weight. I am stating my observations and preferences.

I also realize this is a very touchy subject for women so I do choose my words carefully when I speak on this topic.

Mark

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:34pm
But you said that average women are generally overweight. That's just not true, medically speaking. That's all I was saying. Men still think I, a size 8, am overweight, and that's us not true. We're all entitled to our preferences, but sometimes we don't realize that WE are the ones seeing things wrong.







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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:44pm

Here's a way to calculate what is technically "normal," etc.

http://www.halls.md/body-mass-index/bmi.htm

Note from the same website: "It is important to point out that this simple definition of "overweight" by medical researchers, is not representative of how people regard each other, nor is it how a doctor would judge an individual patient, nor is it used by most nutritionists.

Furthermore, the BMI of 25 kg/m2 definition of overweight is a "unisex" threshold, that suits neither men or women particularly well. Nevertheless, a BMI of 25 to 29.9 is defined as "overweight" by some important institutions."

and it goes on from there.. you can read it yourself.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:48pm
I'm well aware of what BMI is. I'm also aware that it doesn't mean anything in some people. I'm also aware that most men consider me fat, even though my BMI is 21. I'm healthy and in shape, and men see my pictures and see hips and think I'm fat. THAT'S my point. No matter, I'm done. I'm not going to make men think any differently.