Play hardball or not

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Play hardball or not
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:00pm

Guy I met IRL two Sundays ago, called that next Monday but we didn't actually talk until Thursday (hour and a half or so). Discovered we both have ads up on match.com. Said he'd call Friday afternoon. Never heard from him til Sunday when he sent me an email through match, which I didn't respond to. Just now he sent me another email through match saying to call him. Should I? I could go either way.

I'm gonna change my profile to include "don't say it if you don't mean it."

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:33pm

Why wouldn't he just call you if he has your number? That is odd...

Just for that, I wouldn't call...geez!!!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:36pm

Nope, don't call him. Let him call you.

And I wouldn't put the line in your profile. It makes people sound bitter.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:40pm

KitB -

I agree that it's odd. I agree that he's not off to the best start.

I'm also of the mind that us OLDers are quick to "NEXT" folks for what MAY be minor offenses.

Me? If I thought he was cute and seemed interesting, I'd call him and at least give him one more shot to screw up again. And maybe he won't...

Tracy

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:50pm

Odd, but not Next-ing material. Why don't you give him a call as he asked, but also find out from him why in the world would he email you thru an OLD site when he had your phone number?

BTW, what's his profile like?

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 6:59pm

The reason I would be quick to "NEXT" him is because in my experience when they do odd things they turn out to be duds.

Claribeth

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Registered: 04-04-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 8:48pm
Call him. What else do you have on the agenda this weekend? Maybe he's easy.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:11pm

I agree that it just seems *weird*. He said he'd call, never did, and emailed you thru match? Twice? Hmm. I won't advise on whether you should call, just go with whatever your gut says.

And I also second the comment about NOT adding that line to your profile, that's exactly what I was going to say is that it sounds bitter. Just like the ones that say "no lying, cheating or games!" Gee, I wonder how that person's last relationship ended and whether they're over it?

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 6:32am

Yep, I agree with all of you about not adding that line. It should go without saying.

Well, I wish I wouldn't have called. I did and it went south really fast. I was already irritated with him because if it starts out being unpredictable and selfish in the beginning, I don't know how it gets better. His email on Sunday said this "come hug me it's g___" and that's it. I thought "yeah come bite me". So he blows me off and then writes that two days later. Like "I'm now ready to give you a bit of my valuable time, squire." Whatever.

Without going into detail and boring you, the last night's conversation ended with me saying "leave me alone" and hanging up on him. I can see his side but I don't think he can see mine so stick a fork in it, it's done.