Please help...need advice!
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Please help...need advice!
| Tue, 12-20-2005 - 11:55am |
Hi Everyone...ok here's my dilemma. I met a guy online a couple years ago who lives in a different state and we are getting married in 2006. His side and my side know a different story on how we met because we've been too embarassed to tell anyone how we really met (we still kind of think of it as a taboo thing). A few people know the truth only because they were around when we were actually meeting and they have kept our secret all this time. We are worried now that since we everyone will be at the wedding that the subject will come up and we'll look like jerks and everyone who didn't know the truth will feel betrayed and be angry with us. Do we tell everyone ahead of time and face the consequences or just hope that there won't be much talk about our intitial meeting at the wedding? Is it really such a big deal? Does anyone really care how we met? Am I making big deal out of nothing? Thanks...

Why not make a big announcement at the wedding for those who didn't know? You could make it a "now it can be revealed -- we're finally coming clean" kind of thing, funny and festive. I bet it would bring down the house. Who could be mad at that point? If they are, it's their problem, not yours.
And congratulations.
I think people feeling it is a "taboo" and some big secret is at least part of the reason you have people saying things like the statements being made in the thread on "Discouraged with Online Dating".
If more people were forthcoming with that information, more people would realize that regular people DO in fact meet online and that there ARE success stories.
So in the interests of hopeful singles everywhere I hope you will come clean ;-)!
Sheri
Hello Lola!
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CL-Truewild1969
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No, you're not "horrible people" but there's no reason to continue to perpetuate the lie that I can see.
Just explain you were embarrassed, you see now there's no reason to be, and apologize for lying.
Sheri
I don't see why you were obligated to tell them anything. I don't believe in lying per se' but sometimes things are no one else's concern. However, the only way to stop their prying is to throw them off track. They probably brought it on themselves. So I would be polite but firm with them. The party idea is a good way, I think.
I personally don't see anything wrong with meeting on OLD. I know I was kind of embarrassed to admit I'd met someone through a personal's ad about 15 years ago. However, this is the information age and things are changing. People need to change, too.
I guess nothing is really anyone's business unless you choose to tell them. I would probably intentionally do something that would let everybody know how you met. Maybe ask your bridesmaids to play an online dating trivia game.....lol, or a note in an invitation or something. Remember they are all there because they love you and they are happy for you on your wedding day. If anyone makes it into more than that, it's THEIR problem, not yours. Congrats to both of you!
E