Politely saying no thank you
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Politely saying no thank you
| Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:50pm |
I received an email yesterday from a guy on match. Seemed nice, not bad looking. So I replied. He sent me another email asking me where I wanted to go on our first date and did I have a recent picture. He included a new picture of himself and his hair was shorter and he had shaved off his goatee that was in his original profile. Well, two things, the pics I have on my profile I don't consider old (12/04, and I haven't changed) and the new picture he sent of himself looks completely different than the one from his profile. Sorry but not attractive to me. I'm not sure what to say back to him. Any suggestions as to how to say "no thanks"??

I’m sorry but after further thought and review of your profile I don’t think we’ll make a good match.
Hi Donna,
You don't owe him anything. I completely agree with SP's suggestion!
Sunshine
If you really feel strongly, then yes, either just block or send the quick email like peanut said and then block.
However my 2 cents, I think you might be being too hasty. I don't think he necessarily meant anything rude by his request for "recent" pictures. All you would have to do on that one is say "My pictures are only a couple months old so I feel they are a good representation of what I look like now." As for the picture he sent not looking like the other one, if you have any remaining interest in the guy, you might just mention it "Hey, I notice your new picture looks a lot different! I liked the goatee!" But just because his hair is shorter and he doesn't have a goatee doesn't mean he doesn't look like the guy in the first picture! Maybe he took these others more recently and some friend of his said to him "you look great in this picture without the goatee" because they don't like the goatee so he believed him and thought he'd have that one as a backup. Everyone has preferences - some pictures of me that I absolutely hate my friends say are good and ones that I like, they tell me are not so good. It's all personal opinion. If he otherwise seems like a nice guy that you enjoy talking to, what does it hurt to find out a little more? It isn't like you are making a big commitment of your time.
Perfect example, vexer: remember that time I changed my picture on here
The "overwhelmed" part is very true right now. In the last week I've had a slew (sp?) of emails coming in. I don't know if it's the warmer weather or what!! It took me alittle by surprise actually.