Positive Experiences

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Positive Experiences
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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 5:28pm
I'd love to hear about other online dating experiences that ended happily.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 3:31am

I keep meaning to post to this thread and haven't yet. I met my first BF after my divorce online. We were together for four years. In the end we had both changed a lot and our life goals were just incompatible, so we parted ways and are still friends.

I also met my current BF online in January, and it's been going exceptionally well. Honestly much better than any of my previous relationships.

I also went out with LOTS and LOTS of guys before meeting either of them. If I had not been doing OLD I would not have had any dates, since all of the guys who hit on my in real life have been pretty scuzzy.

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:34pm
You don't have to keep your ex's last name ~ I changed back to my maiden name two years ago, once the kids were out of high school. Its' like I became my own person again! And it's not that difficult to do.....
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:16am

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 9:10pm

when I started OLD (a month after ex moved out -- almost married 15 years), I dated about 3 or 4 guys -- then I met dh.


However, I was HIS first (and last, LOL!) OLD date!


We're celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary on June 25. We've been together for almost 5.5 years.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 06-15-2010 - 7:22am

"so he says "are you putting yourself out there?" to meet someone, so I guess I should call him back & say "where exactly should I be putting myself?" besides OLD because I go out and do things, but I never meet any men!"

LOL--I'm feeling the same way these days.

(Actually, I do meet men occasionally, but it never seems to develop into anything)

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Registered: 06-12-2010
Sat, 06-12-2010 - 10:16am

I don’t think online dating in and of itself attracts more ‘jerks’ than other dating methods.

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:17pm

We broke up because we reached a dead end and weren't going down the same path anymore. I don't consider it a failed relationship as we did enjoy each other's company for several years and both got something out of it. It was hard because we still cared about each other and had(have) a strong physical chemistry...which is what kept us together for longer than we should have ;) (And why we've had no contact since we broke up - the first time we broke up we'd get together every now & then).

When we started talking about moving in together is when we started to realize we had different goals in life and different ideas of what the future looks like. We were very comfortable with each other and it's hard to give up that security, but I knew I wasn't completely happy with the relationship and I'm not living like that again.

At my age I also don't feel the need to be married necessarily, though I do definitely want to be in a long-term relationship when it happens. My kids are grown and I've been successfully single for 8 years - have learned how to be social and now have a lot of friends and activities to keep me busy. I returned to college two years ago and take two courses a semester at night and really enjoy it.

If you two are still crazy about each other after 18 months, then chances are you are with the right guy, so I wouldn't worry about the relationship failing anytime soon. As long as you keep the communication lines open and you are both headed in the same direction, just go with it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 7:35pm
My 2nd DH was a widower w/ a child the same age as my older one. Oh but he "forgot" to tell me that after his 1st DW died, he then married & divorced someone else. I guess that didn't go w/ the story of being the devoted guy who took care of his poor DW who had a brain tumor. I did know about the 2nd woman, just didn't know they were married & found out by accident.
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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:45pm
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Registered: 01-20-2009
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 12:54pm
Good for you girl!!!

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