Positive Experiences

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Positive Experiences
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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 5:28pm
I'd love to hear about other online dating experiences that ended happily.

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Thu, 06-10-2010 - 11:15pm

You were lucky!

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 7:13am

First of all, good for you and your boyfriend! It's stories like yours that keep me going.

I wish I could say that I have met someone special through OLD, but I haven't. I am 55, been divorced a long time, and am in my THIRD year of OLD. I haven't met a lot of jerks, in fact I have met nice guys, but there has been no magic.

I think it really is largely a matter of luck whether you meet someone offline or online. Yes, I think it's important to deal with your issues before becoming involved, have the intention, and get out of the house meeting people, but beyond that, I think there is little you can do to "make it happen."

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 9:15am

I totally agree that luck has much to do with it, but the fact that it happened on my first adult date still shocks the heck out of me.

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 9:31am

I agree...at our age, it's mostly luck and thank God for online dating as the dating pool gets smaller and smaller the older we get.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:59am
That quote is funny. I'm 52 & divorced for the 2nd time and I haven't tried OLD yet even though I did it after my 1st div (but then met 2nd DH IRL). My best friend is also divorced so she was asking her brother if he knew any nice guys who were available. His answer was "there is a reason they are divorced." But I was talking to my 1st DH the other night (we are friendly) and we were talking about what a loser my 2nd DH was and how I don't want to get married again but I would date, so he says "are you putting yourself out there?" to meet someone, so I guess I should call him back & say "where exactly should I be putting myself?" besides OLD because I go out and do things, but I never meet any men! So I guess eventually I'll have to bite the bullet & do OLD, even though I'm not thrilled about the idea because the alternative is to have no dates.
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Registered: 01-20-2009
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 12:54pm
Good for you girl!!!
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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:45pm
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 7:35pm
My 2nd DH was a widower w/ a child the same age as my older one. Oh but he "forgot" to tell me that after his 1st DW died, he then married & divorced someone else. I guess that didn't go w/ the story of being the devoted guy who took care of his poor DW who had a brain tumor. I did know about the 2nd woman, just didn't know they were married & found out by accident.
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Registered: 07-21-2008
Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:17pm

We broke up because we reached a dead end and weren't going down the same path anymore. I don't consider it a failed relationship as we did enjoy each other's company for several years and both got something out of it. It was hard because we still cared about each other and had(have) a strong physical chemistry...which is what kept us together for longer than we should have ;) (And why we've had no contact since we broke up - the first time we broke up we'd get together every now & then).

When we started talking about moving in together is when we started to realize we had different goals in life and different ideas of what the future looks like. We were very comfortable with each other and it's hard to give up that security, but I knew I wasn't completely happy with the relationship and I'm not living like that again.

At my age I also don't feel the need to be married necessarily, though I do definitely want to be in a long-term relationship when it happens. My kids are grown and I've been successfully single for 8 years - have learned how to be social and now have a lot of friends and activities to keep me busy. I returned to college two years ago and take two courses a semester at night and really enjoy it.

If you two are still crazy about each other after 18 months, then chances are you are with the right guy, so I wouldn't worry about the relationship failing anytime soon. As long as you keep the communication lines open and you are both headed in the same direction, just go with it.

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Registered: 06-12-2010
Sat, 06-12-2010 - 10:16am

I don’t think online dating in and of itself attracts more ‘jerks’ than other dating methods.

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