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| Thu, 03-03-2005 - 12:01pm |
Positive Influences
I heard about Dennis Richardson and Charlie Sheen, apparently she filed for divorce yesterday and she’s 6 months pregnant. A source says Jen and Brad are also filing. A close friend said to me, you shouldn’t read this stuff anymore, it will only enhance any fears you have of marriage or long term commitments if you read this and I thought, gee, he’s right. It’s a sad reality that the negative break up stuff sells and the happy relationships you don’t hear about that often. I’m sure subconsciously it can’t be good for anyone.
I thought I’d dedicate this post to those that are in successful relationships, have parents or friends and share your positive stories about long term relationships.
I’m in a relationship as well and things are going really great (very happy) but when you keep hearing this stuff (divorces, whether in Hollywood or not) it does get you down.
Cheers,
SP

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Dang I saw that Denise was on his show not too long ago...and my thoughts at that time was "Wow he sure turned his life around". As with Brad and Jen, it makes me sad. Of course I am always sad when I hear of a divorce.
I am so glad to hear that you are in a HAPPY relationship Peanut.
Although I am not in a relationship...my life is also very good. My children are healthy and happy...my parents are alive...I have a great job. Yes indeed...life is good.
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Hi Peanut,
ALL of the best wishes to you! I am where True is and not in a relationship, but happy with my life; someone to share and enjoy life with would be,well....Icing on the Cupcake!
As for the celebrity pairings, I have to say that a Lot of the time, I think those are for publicity only! Look at Jennifer Lopez; girl Must be in the "Marriage of the Month" club! They hook up to make the headlines, and get noticed, boost a career. When that fades, the divorce puts them Back in the headlines...hmmmmmm...makes ya think, huh? However, I DID think that Brad and Jen were a bit different,but...it HAS enhanced their careers,bottom line.
Here in the real world, we get together and things seem much more complicated, as we live without bulging bank accounts, a nanny for each child and a Range Rover just for shopping on Rodeo, so we won't dirty the tires of the Maserati....still, I would not trade with them for...Anything! The BEST thing that ever happened are the gift from God that Search and Destroy, my teen sons, are to me!
I intend to look on the "Bright Side", even if I have to bring my Own flashlight and Extra batteries!
Truly,
Cupcake
Please explain how it enhances their careers. Do they make more money the more gossip covers they're on? I know that some mags pay them (Vogue, Vanity Fair, Redbook, Rolling Stone, etc.) but I doubt that People, US, Star and those kind of mags pay anyone except the photographer.
Lisa
Marrying that guy was a huge gamble in the first place however, it did *seem* like he had gotten to like settling down. She can't wait to get rid of him - even being pregnant. Wonder why?
Lisa
The failure of celebrity relationships does not get me down, personally. I heard about this last night and did a momentary "Well, that's too bad but that was one marriage fated to not last. I bet he cheated on her." and moved on with my life. I don't think most of them take their relationships seriously or do not put the effort into them to make them work.
What gets me down is being shot down myself and seeing my own relationships fail, or seeing my friends that are wonderful people give up because of our own personal difficulties. Hollywood is not the real world. Facing up to heartbreak and failed relationships is. I have positive relationships to base things on from my friends and family but despite that, it is difficult to remain positive when your own romantic life sucks.
lisa - my thinking is that the breakups don't get them money but it still gets them publicity, even negative publicity is better than none. As soon as their name starts to get out of the press, things slow down for them in many ways. So they go through something monumental to get them back in the headlines again.
Hi Lisa,
When the general population is talking about a star, it makes them "popular", so when agents are looking to cast someone for tv or a movie, well, they want the name of someone who is on everyone's lips...the "It" person of the moment.
Take Paris Hilton, for example (Please, somebody, wow, I am sick of seeing her!); the girl has money, but if she did not and was not Such a big buzz, and doing SO many wild outgrageous things to Stay in the limelight, trust me, it would not have been her talent that got her the tv programs, perfume line, etc. She is Surely a "PhD."--"Poppa Has Dough" and she had the money to be out there, and stay in front of the cameras.
The more you are seen as a star, the more people Want to see you! Look at John Travolta--Love the guy, he has guts, but for Years,he was a Nobody! Finally, he worked himself back into the limelight and found a movie where he became the talk of the town, and another, and another..he's back!
Think about it..... if J'Lo did not marry so often, or switch men So often, there would have been little to remember her for lately...certainly not the last few awful movies she has been in!
Popularity--good or bad--is the Key!
Truly,
Cupcake
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Yeah, and because he was cheating on her, apparently. Gee, never saw THAT one coming!
But I believe most regular people like me could care less. Seriously. Whatever publicity they scrounge up for themselves makes them look pathetic. If I never see Paris Hilton or Anna Nicole Smith again, I'd be grateful. I'm still lost on how they are profitable if we're sick of them.
Lisa
agreed! shocking 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce. I wonder why people STILL think its ok to get married just bc they think they have to. I met a woman the other night who said " i married my guy bc i knew I could get out of it if I really wanted to later on". Now why the heck get married? I dont get it.
I have been raised to believe in getting married once. Thats it. Why I'm not so keen on jumpin into a marriage just so I can be like all my friends, etc.
Not that I'm even close to marriage (kinda need a steady boyfriend first :))... But definetly why I dont feel alot of stress to get married before Ive found the one.
Mark my words, when I finally settle down adn get married, half my friends will be getting divorced. My friends look at me like Im such a cynical person - but its honestly the truth. Half of my friends will be divorced in about five years.
Oh well.
I'm HAPPY for you SP - and I didn't mean to rain on your post or parade. There are so many marriages that last.. we dont hear about 'em, cuz hollywood/celebrity marriages are in a whole different ballgame altogether! normal everyday people, they are out there and they've been successful in their marriages.
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