posted ad, no replies-suggestions?

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Registered: 11-09-2005
posted ad, no replies-suggestions?
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 2:46pm

Hello:

I posted an ad online a few weeks ago and have gotten no replies. I did ask a friend to read the ad and photo and she generally liked it and gave some suggestions. Still, nothing. I am curious if whether anyone has suggestions on how to change this. I am considering removing the photo (since I rather not have photos on the web) and just saying I have one to share, but I assume that would not increase numbers of responses. I also plan to email a few people myself. What do others think?

also, are there any sites that people have used and found to be better than others? I am in the Boston area if that makes a difference. Thanks to all.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 3:11pm
If you are willing to share the site and profile name here, you'd get a ton of help writing an attractive profile.


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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:13pm
Atleast share how you described yourself.
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Registered: 09-26-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:29pm

I disagree with the others, I don't think that the writting makes a difference, unless you are saying something really psychotic, I don't think that's it at all. Men surveyed overwhelmingly responded that they don't care about ad content , just the photo (men are shallow!). So maybe you need a better photo, or just start winking;etc. That may stir things up. Good luck, but be careful it's a vicious jungle out there.

The T Girl
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:35pm
Do you have a link to that survey? Because IME, the men who actually read my profile are the ones I want to go out with. So yeah, it does make a difference what the profile says.


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Registered: 09-26-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:51pm
I'll look for it and post it on here. I know I've read them in several places.I think there is even an old post here that had a survey attached a while ago.
I agree with you as far as wanting to go out with guys that do take the time to read my profile, unfortunately I've had way too many who responded to my profile, make it very obvious that they hadn't taken the time to read it. They get very snitty too when you call them out on it, they always have the ever handy: "Oh, I read it, I just forgot everything that was on it." Or some other excuse, this was the case for me 99.99% of the time.
The T Girl
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 5:07pm

I agree - would you mind letting us know what site you are on and your screen name? Generally, we offer pretty helpful constructive criticism. If you are not comfortable doing that, then can you copy and paste the text here?

One rule of thumb to is to DEFINITELY include pictures. Profiles with pictures get a lot more traffic than those without. I won't even talk to someone unless they send me a picture. If they don't have one up and wink at me, I'll ask for one. If they don't send it, I stop communication. And as one of our favorite old posters out here used to say - you need three pictures at a minimum: a head shot, a full body shot and a candid.

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 1:34pm
Thanks all. I have some time tongiht so I am going to retool things a little based on another friend's suggestion. If that doesn't work out better, I'll come back and post the text of the ad.