Problem with my plan! :-)

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Problem with my plan! :-)
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 5:44pm

OK, so what do I do now? I said I would pick up the phone if he called at a reasonable time an allow him to explain or apologize. He called a little bit ago when I was out of my office for a meeting but did not leave a message (it was the same # on caller ID that called last night at 11:30). So now he is one of those non-message leavers too (another pet peeve of mine but not a deal breaker).

I just don't want to put all this effort into something like I did with that one phone-tag guy that looked like Tim Russert and that went no where!

Do I call back now? He probably won't call a third time. Or do I just consider myself "off the hook"? Sigh.

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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 7:08pm

vex, I didn't want to jump into the fray of your last thread, but since you asked about it again:

It would have greatly annoyed me to have the phone ring that late at night, for many reasons. However, I would have chalked it up to him not knowing better and needing to be told that I don't appreciate calls after 10:00. Problem solved, end of same.

Soooo, don't you think you are making a drama of this one itsty-bitsy incident? Just call the dude and hash it all out! Or next him, whatever. Depends on whether or not you like him?

amjay

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 7:38pm
I didn't intend for the last thread to turn into a fray or a this to be a drama - the fray was out of my hands and as for the drama, I didn't want my second question to get mixed in the "fray" because I wanted a real answer. Everyone else went nuts over the original thread and posted about it. I was curious what everyone thought since I was on the fence about him as it was. Sheesh. Sorry to have "bothered" everyone. I thought that was what the board was about.

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:20am

IF you think he's worth pursuing (and it sounds like you're on the fence about him), I think that I would send him an email saying something like, "sorry I missed your call, 11:30 PM is really too late for me. If you'd like to call back, tomorrow between about X and Y would work well, or during the day on Saturday."

But if you're not all that enthusiastic about him anyway, then I wouldn't.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:34am

My vote is to let him call you. If plans come up then make plans; he's a grown man and if he wants a date with you let him figure it out.

Good luck.

SP

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 3:38am

What Sheri said.

One email, short and sweet, and then move on. Maybe one meeting for coffee if he is properly apologetic. :)